TLDR Ex gf denying this is an affair
OK so I’ve been in love with my ex for 24 years. We recently connected on social media. She’s been with her husband since we broke up. I’ve been with my partner 16 years. Something has always been wrong in my relationship, I’ve always felt unfulfilled because I’ve never felt my love returned by my partner, it never felt the same.
I’ve recently discovered that my partner is actually High Functioning Autism. She’s been masking which is why it never felt real. She is not interested in fulfilling my emotional needs and doesn’t even understand them. I don’t think she’ll ever be capable. She says she is AroAce.
I made a play for my ex but she told me she was gappy a d not looking for an out. Our messages have been deeply emotional from the start and are now sexual.
I’ve sent her pictures, not explicit, but of me looking smart etc. She’s liked them, been happy to receive them and told me she’d masturbated to them. She’s more careful and not sent me anything explicit or identifiable.
She says she doesnt want to blow up her life, and neither do I, but I have gone all out and said I would leave everything to be with her again.
When we first reconnected, I asked her if she’d be in trouble if her husband knew she was messaging me. She said ‘I’d like to think not’. We weren’t doing anything but talking then. But now we’re doing a lot more.
Last night I asked her about her saying this. She said, ‘why wouldn’t he trust me to talk to someone. We’re not having an affair.’
We’re totally having an affair aren’t we? She’s said I made her horny, I said I’m sure your husband could oblige. She said noooo, whyyyyy. Way to break the spell. Shes talked about knowing what she likes sexually now and if we got together she’d bloody well enjoy it and make sure I enjoyed it too.
There are lots of winking emojis and flirtation and suggestive comments. We’re both messaging behind our partners backs.
I know my partner would 100% see this as cheating and an affair. I’m sure her husband would too.
Oh yes, and she said my cock lives rent free in her head.
It’s an affair isnt it?