I am nearing 40 within a couple years and I find myself about to cry all the time. Im also going through some stuff in my life, but its not the first time that feeling like thishas happened. I’m not sure the feeling of wanting to cry all the time is due to my age or my situation. Maybe a combination of both? I really dont have anyone in my life older than me so I have no one to ask in person. I mean, even writing out this post is making me sad enough to cry. A show I watched that I mostly thought was dumb and contrived that had a sad ending made me cry. I never used to be like this.
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Yeah I feel that at 21
I’ve become quite nostalgic that’s for sure. Every day I just have some flashbacks of past events, and so on. Even the streets I’ve been to
I’m 42 and I don’t remember crying in the last 2 years. I do get emotional in certain circumstances, but not to the point of crying. It could be that you are going through some stressful times and your nervous system is overwhelmed.
For me, music helps me regulate emotions – for example, I put on loud angry rock and sing along. It’s a way to decompress. When I feel sad or listless, I put on latino music and dance around the house. Other people use meditation to unwind. I guess you jut need to find a way to express emotions instead of bottling them up.
Definitely can be a sign of perimenopause! Hormone fluctuations are wild as hell in peri. HRT can offer stabilization, if you’re seeking that.
I’m about to be 39 & boy does this hit home. I dunno if it’s a hormonal shift or what, but it’s like being back on the pill. Sappy commercials make me choke up. I tear up mid conversation because something that was said (or that I thought about) lead me to a memory (that half the time isn’t even sad.)
I’ve never had more emotional control, meanwhile I look like an absolute nincompoop crying at everything.
Have you tried going to a therapist? Sounds like your emotions are at the surface, may be a good time to dig in.
Me and 2 other friends (all females, 36-38) have been talking about this.
I have never cried so much in my life. Yes, like the rest of the world, I have a LOT going on but everything seems to just make me cry.
I’m leaning towards the reasons being a combo of a)perimenopause b) state of the world and c) this “era” of life: Ageing parents (2 friends lost their moms already this year), my dad had a life altering accident. Loss of older family members as well (grandparents). I’ve lost a few friends as well because our lives just don’t click anymore. Etc.
I’m 38 and cry less than I ever have before, but that’s probably because I am not dating any men at present.
I cried more when I turned 30 because it felt like the beginning of the end at the time. 40 was great – it felt like I’d finally settled into my skin and was really happy.
It happens when I’m depressed. I did take anti-depressants in my forties. I’ve quit now, plus I’m finally in a healthy relationship. I’m a romantic, relationships have always been more important to me than superficial things like money. So naturally, it made me sad when I was in an abuse situation. I did think it was my fault somehow. I hope this helps you to feel better.
Not really. I make more money on only fans in my 40s.
Omg yes lol. I’m only 35 though. Yay!
Nope- but my perimenopause started at 45! Talk to a doctor and don’t suffer!
Perimenopause. I cry all the time now over nothing. Shows, commercials, because my dog has a cute look on her face. Literally anything can make me cry.
I’m old enough to be your mom and imma telling you that life gets better with age! Don’t deny your feelings but persevere through them. You’ll make it 💜
44 and cry. all. the. time. Lol. I am single and don’t have kids and it’s hitting me hard I won’t have them, so I think the finality of that plus the perimenopause has made me emotional AF! Overall my life is great but I swing emotionally a lot. Not manic but just have lots of intense moments, usually when alone. This week I’m a lot better but 2 weeks ago I cried myself to sleep every night. I need therapy but am overwhelmed by the process of asking for help. I also think I could be ADHD. Being a woman is hard, y’all! But also fun.
I went through a crying phase in my early 30’s, I don’t know what it was. I would just be sitting at work and taking a breather and it would happen, even at the gym when I was working out- I would tear up. After so long, I finally went to a psychiatrist, they had me trying different antidepressants and it did stop. I still have no idea what it was. It was even during a time when I was hardcore working out- what is that line in Legally Blonde? Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy….. not for this girl. I am sorry you are going through this.
I assume the crying has a reason, and not just a “I was talking to my neighbor, and suddenly tears started falling!” type of deal. I would maybe keep a journal and everytime you cry, write about what you were doing and feeling at the time it happens. Maybe it’ll elucidate a pattern.
Oh I feel this. I’m 38, going to be 39 this year. I’ve accomplished not much in life. I have a BS in biochemistry and spent 8 years (I hated them) as an analytical chemist. Then I became disabled and have been sitting alone in my apartment all day every day for about 7 years now. I have a partner who I see after shes done with work and on weekends but shes pretty much the only person I talk to. My plan for retirement is fentanyl overdose because I have nothing. I own nothing, I have no plans to do anything, and my life is really kinda sad. I don’t even want to be here anymore for the most part but I am still here because I have hope for the future. My hope is that society gets it shit together and the USA finally elects a leftist and things get better….. but I doubt that will ever happen. I expect to be dead within the next 10 years if things persist the way theyve been. This life is hell.
I have actually hardened up over the years. I was super sensitive in my twenties, but now in my thirties (and in particular, my late thirties) I am much less emotional than earlier years.
Sort of, but in my case, it wasn’t related to turning 40. My mother passed away in November 2020, a few months before my 40th birthday. And despite how difficult – and abusive- she was, her death still devastated me.
Yeah. Hormonal craziness has just done me in. So much crying over nothing. Trying to get my brain back into the corral so I can be a more functional human.
Yes ew lol
A few weeks ago I watched Clerks 3 and cried the entire time, like from opening to ending credits. It wasnt even that funny or that sad. It was actually pretty bad. I cant tell how much of it is hormones vs having a difficult time.
Perimenopause?
I’m two years deep and crying all the time.
There’s nothing particularly wrong in my life that isn’t every day stress. I just cry a lot.
I’m 40. I feel like I barely cried at all in my 30s. Now I cry all the time, it is so easy for me to well up. It sucks.