I’ve been doing some retrospective. In how I interact whit woman, and I’ve think I improved a lot, in a 19M, and in my second semester of college I was able to make a female(srry English has no gender cases) friend, which fortunately for me was asexual which helped me turn away from a incel levels of impulsiveness to, okay you just don’t like anyone at all, which I think really helped me as I was able to maintain a normal and good friendship, example of this was that that we had an assignment together and we ended up yapping for 5 hours straight, and once we where actually done whit the assignment I accompanied to her dorm, she told me that she felt a bit unsafe on campus, which I felt weird about, not becuase I’m a men but becuase I’m from Mexico and the city I lived had murder rate like 15x higher than my colllege county, polar opposite to my highscool me which was creepy used to be aggressive and impulsive(basically an incel). And just last week I stared to like a girl from one of the clubs that I go to, which to give some context its a club meant for English speakers to practice Spanish I go there as a native, because I really like sharing my language, so I guess that I was able to interact so much better whit her was that my new mindset has helped me put myself into positions that make me more positive for society therefore unintentionally “attractive “ which I guess is the core reason as of why I think of myself of having a chance rather than the incel mindset of being sure that I’ll be rejected, so what do you think? Are my intuitions correct?
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You are certainly making improvement – make sure you don’t keep going with the notion that you’re owed anything from anyone in terms of a relationship. They’re meant to be equal partnerships.
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Yep, good start keep going.
Just to clarify your friend’s perspective, here in Australia sexual violence in student acccomodations affects 16% of residents, i.e. 1/6-7 people, which is pretty fricking high for what is a otherwise progressive country. I’m not sure about your location, but those fears are probably justified.