It started over Tinder 26f, 33m . We went straight to bed, from day 1. However, he hugged and kissed me and was pretty affectionate AFTER the session. He began very abruptly and it was painful. He did not always respect me. Like, he pushed my head down on him while I was already suffocating.
But I am very isolated and he was the only person I woke up for, to even meet.
We only met for sex. He called it friendship, I did not. I got him little gifts because I felt like I owed him every time.
He knew I was sui##al. He knew. But with him I wasn’t, until I had to leave his home, then it always hit me much worse.
Last time we had a serious talk, he spoke to me of my cuts and we said that if I do it again, he’ll be sad.
I didn’t do it again. But I was hospitalized this week for an irrelevant reason and was looking forward to being free the weekend to meet him.
He said we wouldn’t meet because he had to go to his grandmother and that we wouldn’t sleep together again or meet, because I bleed during sex. He had originally said that we’d have sex again after I’d been to the gynecologist and if I had clear tests. They were clear other than a vaginal cream I was given for yeast, but he insisted that I cannot have sex and changed what he had originally said about continuing the contact, because he insisted that if I have sex, I will have a problem.
I never believed him about his grandmother and when I realized that I have nothing to be out the hospital for, I split on him. I begged him for help, he sent me a prevention number I never called.
He said we wouldn’t meet again but we could still talk through texts and I lost it.
I called him an asshole and he said that it was over because of how I insulted him.
I am beyond sui##al and feel completely horrible. He blocked me everywhere, I kept texting through different numbers, he threatened me he’ll go to the police to report and restrict me.
TL;DR : He started fading with excuses, I called him an asshole, blocked me everywhere.
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Girl leave him alone and get into therapy He’s gross and doesn’t respect you. It sounds like you don’t respect yourself either. Please seek some professional counseling and work on you.
You’ve done nothing wrong but please get some therapy, some help, and look after yourself. There’s so many more reasons to get up & out every day other than meeting douchebag men who don’t respect you. You deserve the world.
You didn’t “fuck up” — you were in a situation where someone used your vulnerability and isolation for their convenience, then discarded you when things got complicated. That doesn’t make you broken or wrong; it means you were deeply human in your need for connection, safety, and meaning. The pain you’re feeling is valid, but it also signals that something has to change — not because you’re flawed, but because you deserve real care and not just moments of affection wrapped around disregard. Please don’t face this alone; even if it feels impossible, reaching out to someone — a therapist, a support line, a trusted person — is an act of reclaiming your life and worth. You’re not beyond help, even if it feels like it right now.
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It started over Tinder 26f, 33m . We went straight to bed, from day 1.
We only met for sex. He called it friendship, I did not.
He knew I was sui##al. He knew. But with him I wasn’t, until I had to leave his home, then it always hit me much worse.
He said we wouldn’t meet because he had to go to his grandmother and that we wouldn’t sleep together again or meet, because I bleed during sex. He had originally said that we’d have sex again after I’d been to the gynecologist and if I had clear tests.
I am beyond sui##al and feel completely horrible. He blocked me everywhere, I kept texting through different numbers, he threatened me he’ll go to the police to report and restrict me.
Maam, you need to address yourself first before you look outward at him. You have enough going on for yourself. Right now its looking like he was a desperately horny guy who stuck his d*ck in crazy and now has clearer vision.
You say youre over him, yet you still call him and harass him. Go and deal with your own issues first. He is not the person who is responsible for your positive mental health. You are.
I understand how you feel and your personal struggles, however, like everyone has said- accept this and move on. I can promise you that you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Reddit is always sooo judgy. We make mistakes. Go to therapy and heal, one day u will talk again and u will apologize to each other
The mods kept deleting my post and even muted my chat because I asked advice on my bfs porn addiction and they said it’s abusive yet this is somehow up. Lol
If you’re not in a healthy place to love yourself then you shouldn’t be having sex. Go to therapy and learn to love yourself.