I’m 14m and on vacation with my family. We were at the beach and I was alone by the bar and some woman sat down next to me. Idk how old she was but like late 30s maybe. She asked if I wanted a beer too (you can have beer at 16 here but honestly I don’t look 16 at all so I was surprised). I told her no because I’m 14. She started making small talk and asking questions about me, like about school and all. She also said she’s a teacher herself and kinda talked about that a lot. She didn’t ask anything weird directly but she did touch my arm and my shoulder on purpose and eventually she asked if I wanted to come swimming with her because she knew a good spot for that. I asked her if she had a son my age or something because why would I go swimming with a random woman. She said no and that it’d be just us. Then I got kinda weirded out and made an excuse to leave.
I have been groomed by a guy (or multiple ones actually) before but not a woman so idk if this is weird or if I’m overreacting.
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Your not overreacting, that seemed like a very predatory interaction. Adults have no business luring minors alone to “swim”.
This is MORE than Wierd !! I doubt anything this woman told you is truthful. You were right to listen to your intuition. God only knows what she had planned for you. Keep away from places that may put you in harm’s way as much as possible. I thank God you are OK !!!
Can you talk to your family or a counselor about this? Coming to Reddit as a 14 yr old with a post like this and telling strangers that you’ve been groomed multiple times, only attracts more predators. You’re letting them know that you’re susceptible to it. They might act like they’re here to advise you but I wouldn’t trust strangers. You need to talk to a trusted adult or even a friend.
Maybe a prostitute
You did a great job recognizing that behavior, it’s definitely weird and creepy, and it makes sense that you connected it to something typical of a predator or pedophile. Please make sure to stay as safe as possible, try to keep yourself surrounded by family or people you trust and if you can, talk to your parents or someone you feel safe confiding in about what happened.
Red flag: probably not operating alone and you’d be a step away from being trafficked. Yuck! Good dodge bro. Stay alert.
You absolutely did the right thing by trusting your gut and leaving. That situation was not normal or appropriate especially with her touching you and asking to go somewhere alone. An adult showing that kind of interest in a 14 year old, regardless of gender, is a red flag. You’re not overreacting at all. Stay safe and don’t be afraid to talk to someone you trust about it.
That is definitely odd behavior, as a former teacher (or just an adult in general) in my late 30s as well, I’d never offer an alcoholic beverage to a minor, no matter the legal drinking age in that country.
Even more than that, to ask said minor if they’d like to come to an area for swimming and/ or anything alone is sketchy behavior.
No you are smart because next thing you know you would have ended up chloroformed and flown to Saudi Arabia to be sold off to some weird Russian pimp. Glad you have smarts.
Remember Epsteins girl was the one who brought girls to him? Seriously, she could have been luring him for sex trafficking kidnapping, which is a serious problem these days. Stay safe, teens, and know the signs!
Yep she’s a paedophile.
Thank god you realised the signs but sorry you had to experience it before. Humanity can be doodoo.
As a teacher, I’m getting major red flag vibes from her comments.
Personally, I never talk to children unless their parents are around, and even then it’s because I was already talking to the parents and the child happened to be there.
Touching your arm and shoulder? Creepy.
“Just us” swimming. Mega creepy.
“Just us” means no witnesses.
I know you said you have no one to talk to in your immediate family, but do you have ANYONE you can trust and talk to?
Might even be worth talking to someone at school when you go back.
you’re not overreacting. my dad is a pedo and women can do it too! I’m glad that you trusted your gut. You’re not wrong.!
At 14 you see and perceive the world for what it is… Trust those feeling and observations 100% of the time.
An invitation to go somewhere alone is 100% a huge red flag and you’re smart to be concerned. Everything else could have been explained away but that is is very troubling.
People don’t often recognize there are many women pedophiles. It seems the males one get all the press. You made the wise choice to avoid her. Police rarely take women pedophiles seriously.
Should have been me.