I’ve masturbated for as long as i can remember and I’m 29 now and can not for the life of me get off without a high powered vibrator. my hand? forget about it. if my vibrator dies on me I can’t finish by myself. it’s as if I feel nothing. did I desensitize myself? will I ever be able to get back to my hand being good enough?
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Give yourself a break lol take a month off of masturbating and you’ll be fine. I doubt you did any nerve damage
Get a wand that plugs in. Problem solved!
This happens commonly with frequent masturbation and when using the same masturbation technique every time. If you mssturbate very frequently, you will experience a temporary loss of sensation (I have no idea why), and masturbating only one way can train your body to only climax while using that one method.
You likely do not have permanent damage, this is a normal occurrence. Temporarily refraining from masturbation for a few days usually fixes sensitivity issues. If you do abstain for a few days, when you do resume masturbation, try masturbating in different ways and positions, such as using your finger, sitting, standing, etc. to introduce variety and prevent you from being able to climax with only one method.
You can masturbate for a few days in a row, but you usually want to have a day or two during the week where you are not masturbating (assuming you are a woman. No idea what the reccomendations are for men)
You did desensitize yourself, but it is probably not permanent. One of my exes did that at some point with a massager that was actually not meant for that purpose, and was rather powerful. She took some time off from it and was better in a month or so.
Women can get a “death grip” syndrome too.
It will take weeks or months to get over it. You have to stop entirely. Same way men do who choke the chicken too hard. First thing to do is to stop masturbating entirely. And then when you do- don’t use power tools lol
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I am in the same situation, even from the start i was never able to orgasm “manually” and i don’t even masturbate often at all
Women are top tier gooners but no one talks about it
Just take a few weeks off from the vibrator and your sensitivity should return to normal. Then just try other methods and dial back on using the vibrator too much.
Sensory adaptation means the brain cells reduce sensitivity to certain stimuli over a period of time. Take a break
Like other comments said, just give yourself a break. I did the same thing to myself and I took a break for about two weeks and I was pretty much back to normal
Men do the same thing and it’s called Death grip syndrome. Assuming that the muscles are reacting the same way, I would assume you would have to do the same thing men would do. Don’t touch it give it a break let it rest for like a month or two and it will essentially factory reset. You’ll get sensitive as hell
Go cold turkey for a while and your sensitivity will come back
Yup, hard to match the march of a battery powered machine!
I feel you sis, but a little break from masturbation and vibrator can help to regain sensitivity
Everyone is talking about desensitization and nerve damage. But a very real risk is rewiring your brain 🧠to only feel good with a certain kind of thing, and there is scientific research on that as well. Very hard to reverse from what I know.
This reminds me of the endless T-break threads in r/trees.
Women, evidently, get death grip too, sometimes referred to as “death buzz” when a vibrator becomes necessary.
As I am not a woman, I will let the other commenters walk you through it.
You should definitely take a break from it, at least a month’s worth, you will notice a difference
I know many woman who have done this which is why I won’t use the vibration ever. It’s so sad .
Yes vibrators are designed too strong and will desensitize you after a while. Take a break from them.
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Give the vibrators a rest!! Wait a month then next time you feel like you want to pleasure yourself do it with your hand only…. It may take some build up to get back to getting off without the vibe. But it will be the absolute best thing for sex with another person! And for a treat you can still vibe just stay at as low a setting as possible to get you where you need to go and not more than once a week or two!!
If you’re on anxiety or depression meds they can affect your sensitivity. It drastically affected my wife. Take a few days off and revisit it.
Take break for a couple of weeks , and once u start back again try to use ur hands not the vibrator.
As others mentioned, take a break for a bit.
I’ve been there a few times myself, and taking a break for a couple weeks lets things reset/get more sensitive so I can finish easier