A popular movie just came out, and both my girlfriend (20F) and I (21M) were both interested in seeing it. It came up in conversation and I told her we HAD to see it.
A few days later, one of the guys in my friend group invited me to see the movie with him, his girlfriend, and another friend (2M, 1F—all part of our friend circle). My girlfriend isn’t really close with any of them, except for some casual texting with said girlfriend of friend. She has only hung out with everyone a handful of times when I brought her along. We all have pretty busy lives, so group hangouts are rare nowadays.
I ended up telling my friend I couldn’t go because I had to work that night. Later, my girlfriend texted me asking if I was going to the movie with said friends. I told her no, and asked if she wanted to go the next day like we had talked about.
A few hours go by, and I find out she went to see the movie with my friends without saying anything to me.
This stung pretty bad as I was really looking forward to seeing it with her. She’s never done anything like this before, and honestly, it felt like she blew me off.
Now I still want to see the movie, but I’ve got no one to go with. I know I can be a bit possessive and sometimes overreact, so I asked a few close friends I really trust. They all said this was a major red flag.
So now I’m wondering—am I being too sensitive here? Or was this actually kind of messed up? How upset is too upset?
TL;DR:GF and I planned to see a movie together. I declined a friends invitation (didn’t include her) and asked her out to go the next evening. Instead, hours later, she went to the movie without me—with my friends. I feel hurt and left out, but I tend to overthink things. Other friends are saying it’s a big red flag. Not sure if I’m justified or just being dramatic.
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Your friends are right, that would definetely raise some flags for me, especially given the fact you guys talked about watching it. Unless your gf has memory issues, she wouldn’t have forgotten you or your conversation, she made a decision here it seems, talk to her about why.
It could have been a miscommunication between everyone. She could have thought you’d go and got annoyed when you didn’t. Your buddy’s girlfriend could have texted her too, if he texted you.