I have been a bit of oddball my whole life.
My hobbies are ‘manly’- distance running, martial arts, weight lifting, target shooting.
I am feminine- at first look. Before my current partner, almost every guy I went out with at some point brought up the same complaint:
You are always around men (hobbies and friends), you think like a man. You must need validation.
Was talking to the other women at our martial arts gym and they had similar experiences.
Do men do this because they are insecure or use as cop out of not being into a woman rather than straight up telling her?
I don’t get it. Women are not a monolith. Not all of us bake cookies, wear skirts or have only female friends. Almost as if personal interests/male presence are an indicator of promiscuity or weaker morals.