Today was a busy day. I work at a school, and today was the end of year “fun day”. It was wonderful, however exhausting. After packing up and heading out for the day, I get a call from my mother. At this point in our relationship I kind of dread these calls. Usually these calls are filled with unnecessary comments about how my life should be, and what I should be doing. For context my mother is a person who is very self centred . With this trait, she is blind to needing attention to be on her, ironic isn’t it? I digress.
Anyways after work, her photo picture pops up on my phone, with the call notification. I am always optimistic that each call or interaction will be better and more positive. However each time, a little part of me becomes more realistic and pessimistic about the future.
This time I thought it would be different. It was not. The conversation went as, inquiring about how my day was, asking about weekend plans, and who was to watch our new baby. Speaking of this, she was suppose to watch new baby this Tuesday but we no longer needed a sitter. My partners parents and always inquire how baby is and offer time to watch said baby. However my family is not like that, they do not inquire or ask about baby, and do not offer to watch baby. With this information, my mother asks about our weekend and who is watching baby as we have an event that we will need baby to be cared for. I informed my mother that my partner’s parents would be watching baby.
After this information she said “call me when you have more time”. This is her usual response, almost as if a “whatever” statement, and focusing the attention back onto herself.
After dealing with this behaviour for years, it has became exhausting. Every conversation is filled with gossip, or overall just attention seeking behaviour (ie, centre of conversation and never taking an interest in my life or partner’s). It is hard as I understand why this behaviour occurs, however it is not fair to me to make every decision I make about her. I don’t want to feed into this behaviour of, I act petty then my family in turn places attention onto me therefore reinforcing the petty behaviour.
I am unsure about what to do, and even if this relationship is worth keeping.
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