My mil treats my husband like he’s her husband, and I think I’ve finally reached the end of my rope. They communicate pretty much daily. She shows up at his work for lunch dates and walks around the block, she inserts herself in our life as much as she possibly can, she even checks in with him while she’s traveling. A few examples… “about to take off love you!” “Just landed safe and sound, love you ❤️” “I think I have a package at the door will you check for me? Thanks! ❤️ Appreciate you! love you!” “Getting on the plane headed home see you soon!” “Just landed almost home 🥰 love you!” (while she’s with HER HUSBAND who is my husband’s step dad) and so much more. It’s classic mother son enmeshment.
I told him this morning that I was feeling a bit shut out and I really needed more emotional closeness and connection. The defensive response I got back was jaw dropping, but I didn’t get sucked in. I even sent him a reassuring follow up text a couple hours later letting him know that I love him, he did nothing wrong, we’re a team, and we’re gonna work it out. Later he got belligerent drunk and just really let me have it. “I do so much and it’s still not enough” “you should just find some other guy, some guy with a big dick who will take you out to dinner and dick you up” “what you want is impossible” “you need to just tell me you’re over it so I can move on” “I’ve got great things going on for me and you’re getting in the way” he just… would not stop…
I’m stuck because we have two beautiful daughters 2 and 4 years old. I just can’t leave them alone with these sick people. Maybe when they’re older, but not now. It’s so fucked up. I would have never married this person if I had a clue… anyone else in this position?