I don’t know if I would say struggle, as I’ve always had close female friends. However I would say that I am selective with female friends. I don’t tend to value material things, I’m not really into my looks or clothing or being judged on either and I prefer to discuss topics, ideas and events rather than other people. Having said that, there are many women like me, and many other women who aren’t like me and I’ve learned to shy away from those who are not like me. But in all honesty this also applies to male companions as well.
I do struggle to connect with some/most women on a friendship basis because we all aren’t compatible that way. I’m pretty selective when it comes to interpersonal relationships because I protect my peace. I am not everyone’s friendship-cup-of-tea. I have also had friendships drift apart because they had children, I generally let them go because they seem to have their hands full.
I don’t trust women. I had my ex best friend try to get my husband fired after she found out I was pregnant for no reason other than jealousy and she just decided she didn’t like him. I had another former best friend who was a pathological liar. We’d had problems before, but the second I had started dating my husband, she started messing with my head and playing stupid games so I immediately cut her off. Haven’t had a best friend since.
I honestly don’t know, I connect just fine with people in general, but idk what it is that I can’t seem to maintain that contact/friendship rolling. We just become acquaintances and that’s about it. 🤷🏻♀️
Because every woman my age (34) is in a relationship and/or has kids. I want neither, and as soon as previous friends obtained either of those things it became the basis of every conversation and we quickly had nothing in common anymore.
My best friend of 20 years is a married man. Our daily conversations revolve around video games, tv, movies, news etc.
Perhaps I’ll meet another aro, childless, cat lady one day and we’ll become good friends. But I’m not holding my breath and certainly not seeking it out.
Yes. For the most part, all the women I have met in the past few years have just been really shallow. They’re interested only if they want to tr@uma-dump. Which to me seems extremely selfish.
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I don’t know if I would say struggle, as I’ve always had close female friends. However I would say that I am selective with female friends. I don’t tend to value material things, I’m not really into my looks or clothing or being judged on either and I prefer to discuss topics, ideas and events rather than other people. Having said that, there are many women like me, and many other women who aren’t like me and I’ve learned to shy away from those who are not like me. But in all honesty this also applies to male companions as well.
I do struggle to connect with some/most women on a friendship basis because we all aren’t compatible that way. I’m pretty selective when it comes to interpersonal relationships because I protect my peace. I am not everyone’s friendship-cup-of-tea. I have also had friendships drift apart because they had children, I generally let them go because they seem to have their hands full.
I don’t trust women. I had my ex best friend try to get my husband fired after she found out I was pregnant for no reason other than jealousy and she just decided she didn’t like him. I had another former best friend who was a pathological liar. We’d had problems before, but the second I had started dating my husband, she started messing with my head and playing stupid games so I immediately cut her off. Haven’t had a best friend since.
I honestly don’t know, I connect just fine with people in general, but idk what it is that I can’t seem to maintain that contact/friendship rolling. We just become acquaintances and that’s about it. 🤷🏻♀️
Because every woman my age (34) is in a relationship and/or has kids. I want neither, and as soon as previous friends obtained either of those things it became the basis of every conversation and we quickly had nothing in common anymore.
My best friend of 20 years is a married man. Our daily conversations revolve around video games, tv, movies, news etc.
Perhaps I’ll meet another aro, childless, cat lady one day and we’ll become good friends. But I’m not holding my breath and certainly not seeking it out.
Yes. For the most part, all the women I have met in the past few years have just been really shallow. They’re interested only if they want to tr@uma-dump. Which to me seems extremely selfish.