so I’ve recently gotten out of a ltr and during it, I lived in bralettes. when I first met my ex, it was sexy bras and cute panties. going back into the dating world, I don’t really wanna buy new bras cuz they’re stupid expensive. how much do men actually care? is it weird if you had to pull her bra over her head versus unclipping it?
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What can I say, I am a man and I really enjoy seeing boobs bouncing around as a woman walks by. If no woman wore a bra, I’d be happy. I mean, I know it’s their choice and many (most?) want/need the support, and that’s fine. When it comes to a woman who is actually wearing a bra, I don’t care how it comes off if that’s where we are going with it. đ
I like looking at a bra on someone I’m attracted to if she feels her best in it. If she doesn’t want to wear one or only wears one that serves a practical need, it doesn’t bother me.
It does not really matter. At the point a guy is taking the bra off they have other concerns on their mind than what kind of bra it is.
Iâm gay so I canât really speak too much for straight men but Id imagine they donât care about bras that much, Id imagine theyâd prefer you not wear one at all
Nope
Not into women but through imagining a man unclipping one vs pulling it over a womanâs head, unclipping just seems more easier and less hassle
The only issue Ive ever had with bras is having her take it off because I can never unclip it
Had to goole “bralettes”. WTF, they are awesome. No guy would reject you because of this.
And no guy will give a fuck about how he is going to unpack them sweeties. Clips, buttons, Abus lock, over the head, front, back… doesn’t matter. Just set them free.
Just speaking as a woman, no matter what bra I wear there seems to be guys out there who love it. Sports bra, lingerie, push up, strapless, it doesn’t matter, there will be men who are into it. Not every guy likes stereotypically “sexy” bras, and most of them care way more about what’s under the bra than the bra itself anyway.
Iâm gonna go against the other replies and say a nice looking bra majorly enhances attractivenessÂ
With that said if youâre at the point where bras are being seen thatâs basically never gonna be a deciding factor lol
Simple answer – getting the bra OUT of the way so I can see your bare chest is WAY more important than what the bra looks like laying on the floor next to us.
I donât care one way or the other. Iâm single and all I want is a woman to wear whatever she is comfortable in. Thatâs it.
If I could remove my gf’s bra by just pulling it off like a top, instead of trying to wrestle with some four clip + additional clip at the top (she busty) sort of set up, I’d be so happy.
Nah I’m more of a boob man
I am quite talented at the one-hand-behind-your-back-bra-unclasping move. I particularly enjoy it because it usually means its sexy time.
That said, I wouldn’t really care if I didn’t get to do it anymore because the woman I was with didn’t own any clasping bras. It is the person I am with I care about most, not what specific type of apparel they own.
We don’t generally care. A good number of us don’t even like “sexy” lingerie either, except for the message it sends… but you don’t need lingerie to send it!
As a guy i prefer boobs without bras.
No.
If theyâre into you they wont care
If a woman put on a sexy bra for me, I would care far more about the fact that she put effort into being sexy for me than the bra itself.
I am sure some men are much more into bras than me, but if its a fetish to the point of being a necessity, they might just not be compatible with you. I bet they are a very small minority though, and most men will not have a problem with whatever bra you have, especially if you are planning to take it off.
Doesn’t matter what bra it is, when I’m taking off my girlfriends bra before sex I’m not bothered by what one it is.
It is sexy though when she pops her top on in bed with no bra on and her nipples poke through đđ
We donât care. We love women. If we get to the point that weâre taking your bra off, weâre not thinking about the bra lol đ
Nah, gonna take it off anyway.
I hate bras. Push ups are a let down. Just let them out and stop making a big deal about it. If you need support, hell yeah sister you rock that shoulder bolder holder but if not please donât you look ridiculous.
No
Sort of. If you decide to wear something uniquely sexy for fun time then that would be a plus. However, day to day? It doesn’t really matter.
Well, there’s a fetish for everything, and some men are in to specific types of underwear. But, based my own preferences and those of other dudes I’ve talked to, we really only care about what’s underneath.
If wearing sexy underwear makes you feel sexy, and helps get you in the mood, we’re more than happy to play along. If it doesn’t really do anything for you, that’s fine too. Because boobies.
No. What matters is under said bra
Bras are just a problematic barrier to me – man
This may sound like a cliche answer – we want you comfortable. Comfort means you’re happy. Happy means you take your bra OFF for us sometimes… and THAT is what matters to us. Lol
There are going to be preferences. You’ll never get a consensus on what a man likes.
With that said, one general consensus (maybe) is that there is a preference for sexy bras. Though a lot of guys will probably settle for a bra that isn’t ratty and old.
At the end of the day, I’m just happy to be in a position to see the bra. But there are still preferences.
Couldn’t care less.
Ma’am, the bra is just a wrapper. As long as it’s not a stained white cotton thing, it’s irrelevant. If you’re able, braless is preferable.
Today I learned that a) bralettes exist and b) a lot more men than I would have thought can’t undo a bra
Listen. If you are taking your top off, then that’s what matters. The winner here is BOOOOOOOBS!!
I have always said expensive underwear is pointless as it is going to be lying on a bedroom room for a majority of its lifespan.
I kind of like bras. I think some guys really like sexy bras, but if youâre getting naked, the guy is just happy because of that, so itâs nothing to stress over.
Itâs the inside that counts.
Bra or no bra, Iâm here to support you. đ
I promise you , a guy thatâs genuinely interested in you could not care less about what your bra looks or feels like.
There is probably a small subset of guys that care about bras but most guys donât care. Push up bras may help attract a guy but they wonât care about the actual bra. When it gets to the point where they can see the bra their goal will be helping you take it off. They wonât care about unclipping vs pulling it over your head.
NGL, it melts me when a woman wears a silk or satin blouse with a lacy bra and panty set underneathâŚ
Not at all.
Personally, I hate bras. Free them tiddies!
TIL what a bralette is.
No. Nobody cares.
Although I would recommend buying one nice set for “special occasions.”
Guys really, really like sexy underwear. And it has nothing to do with how it looks or whatever, it truly and simply is the fact that you chose to wear something sexy *for me*
That’s it. That’s the draw. You put effort into looking sexy *for me.*
When we were dating, my wife would get annoyed that I didn’t notice her matching bras and panties. I didn’t really care what she was wearing, I was eager to get her naked.
At first, I was thinking hmmmm maybe since I’ve gained weight I might need to wear one. After reading your whole post, the answer is most guys we don’t care, we’re just happy we’re allowed to see what the bras are supporting. If someone makes a big deal out of it, might be a sign of other issues, maybe he’s controlling, insecure, narcissistic, etc. Even if he’s OK if you’re not comfortable in the relationship just don’t be there.
A comfortable partner is a happy partner, and if the bra is coming off, I don’t care if it’s new and sexy or old and stained, because boobs.
There might be 1% of dumb guys who care and make a stupid comment, but they are genuinely fucking stupid, insecure, and not worth listening to. Let alone dating.
99% of men will not care.
Most of those things that woman generally question are just judged by other women⌠using the same dress twice, the weird eyebrows, orange makeup⌠everything, so if you ever question something like that again, you are good donât worry
Bras don’t really matter to men, in fact I support (hehe) doing away with them completely
I prefer bralettes and braless tbh! They look super comfy and sexy as hell. Definitely prefer over a real bra.
Tube tops were the best !
We care about the present, not the wrapping paper
I live in sports bras my friend and never have a problem stumbling into a new relationship.
As long as theyâre clean and donât look like a hoboâs pillow, weâre good đđ˝
Just ask the man you want to be interested. Everyone of us has a different taste for them
I personally love nice bras on women I know the present is whatâs important but pretty wrapping is always nice.
I am also always happy to go bra shopping and buy the nice ones for the lady who wants them
Obviously every guy is different but two things I want to point out.
Guys just want boobies. Not really bothered what they’re wrapped in.
Personally I LOVE sports bras, bralettes and T-shirt bras. Way more than lingerie. My wife has even been known to go and change her bra until a sports bra because she knows it gets me going more.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ll take her covered in garbage but she likes to please.
Iâd say you are ok as long as you donât also wear grandma underwear.
Bralettes are cute but from what my wife has experienced theyâre difficult to find attractive ones.
A wise man once said ” i’ve got a lovely bunch of coconuts.”
Bras are bras, guys love bras
It’s what’s inside that counts
As a guy Iâd have absolutely zero issue with that kind of bra, and pulling off over your head wouldnât at all bother me. It could still be very sexy. And seriously if any guy had an issue with what you wear and are comfortable in, he has got to go! Seeing a woman undressed is a great privilege and any guy should be more than thankful.
In my opinion, bras are bras lol
Couldn’t care less about the bra itself
That would be like getting pissed off at the wrapping paper your presents are in.
Men don’t care what type of bra you have, it’s what’s underneath that counts <3
I can only answer for myself, but what goes IN the bra is more important to me
aesthetically, free-the-boobs looks great depending on size, shape and the routrusse-scale.
In normal life, do your thing girl.
Maâam Iâm just happy to be there in the first place.
Nope, doesnât matter to us
you’re putting waaaay too much thought into it. just wear what you want to wear!
You got out of a ltr, a liter?
That confused me initially.
Guy brain, bewbs? Guys aren’t going to care how they come out, they just want them to come out. As long as you have confidence in yourself you could rock granny panties and most guys will still be down to clown.
It doesnt matter at all.
My wife quit wearing bras when i told her i didnt give a fuck. Now we’re both happy.
No one’s ever bothered about the wrapper the sweets come in
It’s not necessarily the fabric itself, but what’s behind that fabric that we love. I know I don’t speak for all guys however I love boobs just as much as the next guy but if the sexy bra doesn’t support her boobs and she feels uncomfortable, I’ll feel bad. I’d much rather my gf/wife be comfortable and would prefer to be in the clothes she wears
Given how hard it seems to unclip a bra (no experience so I’m just guessing) it shouldn’t be an issue. If it is, that tells you something about a man who values his opinion over what you’re comfortable in. So with that what you will.
If we get so far to see them, we only think about whats behind it.
If you’re wearing a push up bra or one that gives a lot of shape/support, men typically believe you have more there than provide by nature. (Seen as more attractive)
We’re dumb that way.
Actually, intellectually we know there is support, but most of us are pretty visual creatures.
I have a female friend who has a “great” bra. She has worn it while visiting many times, then a few times wore a different brand/bra. I noticed.
In contrast, my wife never wears a bra. Certainly not for the last 10 years. Do I mind/care? Nope, she’s great as is.
My point is: if you’re asking if men find a good bra to be attractive. Yes, we do. But if you’re asking if we think women should always wear bras, then I’d say no.
If you’re trying for that moment of first meeting someone, it might give you a boost in attractiveness. (pun intended). This should be obvious of course, as that’s one of the reasons women wears bras. (And makeup, and nice clothes, etc.). We’re dumb that way.
Iâve never had an attraction to bras, I do understand the occasional need for boob braces though. I probably wouldnât love it if mine were flopping around while working or running.
I think most men are fine with any type of bras or bralettes. The packaging doesn’t matter, it’s the act of unwrapping.
I think maybe for special occasions when you’re BOTH dressed up like an anniversary but even then, the excitement is still there.
I think the turn off would at worst be like a bra that is so obviously really worn out, damaged & uncomfortable. The kind where you needed to buy a new one yesterday. Even then it’s not really a turn off but more concern.
When you receive a gift for your birthday, do you care about the wrapping paper?
Just give me a heads-up if it’s a front loader. Don’t make me fumble around the back for a catch, that’s not there. Man’s gotta be slick.
Wear what is comfortable. Please don’t judge if the guy can’t undo it like Joey from Friends the first time.
Nope. We like boobs. Donât care how theyâre held
No. Not really.
99.99999% of men have never ever given a thought to types of bras. Looked at bras a billion times probably but never thought about this bra vs that bra ever.
As a man who likes looking at women in lingerie I can say the type of lingerie makes little difference, especially if it is enroute to full nudity. Bralettes can be cute and sexy.
Gosh I havenât worn a real bra since the pandemic. Never had a complaint yet.
My boyfriend (3 years older than me) has always told me he doesn’t care,as long as it doesn’t look childish. He says it makes him feel gross and pedophilic
Although it seems like the question might be more about menâs response to the bra once the shirtâs off, please keep in mind that high quality bras make an absolutely huge difference in how clothes hang on your body
I don’t hate bras, I just feel a lot better when they are not around.
Not to be crass, but if someone wraps a present for me in really nice wrapping Iâll be appreciative of the effort and admire the detail but thatâs not what I love about Christmas.
The covering doesn’t matter. It’s what’s inside the counts!
Your underwear. Your choice.
Do I like sexy bras and panties? Yes. Do I care infinitely more about what’s underneath? Also yes.
Iâd prefer my partner be comfortable. I donât care what allows them to reach that. Iâll celebrate them and aesthetically appreciate them however they do.
I think anything that comes off faster and easier will be considered a plus.
I like sports bras and bralettes personally. The flashy padded stuff isn’t for me.
who gives a shit what they like? it’s about what you like and you find comfortable.
Nope, we just wanna see the boobs.
If you’re wearing a sexy, low cut top or dress, then a good bra definitely helps to direct our attention (not like it won’t be there in the first place hahaha), but once we have you alone, it’s all about getting you out of those clothes as quickly as possible.
One time my girlfriend at the time bought some sexy lingerie while we were on a trip. Before we started to go at it she said “hold on…” and went to the bathroom for a few minutes, then came out (awkwardly and very self conscious) in a corset and a garter belt. I just said “wow!” and told her to get over here. She was disappointed that my reaction wasn’t more and that I immediately wanted her to take it off. Seeing a naked woman beats any other type of clothing.
Also bralettes are sexier IMO than bras, easier access and it shows the shape/nips more. Same goes for sports bras. I live in Miami where it’s always hot and there are tons of athletic women. I see attractive women in sports bras and yoga pants/shorts every day and I’m like đłđ°
You know this is a funny question because I worked at a place and there was a person who didnât wear bras and everyone would always mention it(not to her) and the girls would say sheâs âattention seekingâ and everyone looked at me like I had three heads when I said that it shouldnât be up to her to make people not look they should just not be looking and have a little respect
I donât know about all men, but my husband hates bras. Says they make boobs look unnatural. He picks the bras I wear. I have 2 bralettes and a few sports bras, because he does understand the need for support but doesnât want all the extra fabric and wires and cushion.
Leave it up to him though, I wouldnât wear one. Just an extra obstacle to get past to touch boobs.
I canât remember ever caring about bras lmao
No, it doesn’t. I prefer my partner comfortable.
Your comfort comes first.
You know when you buy a muffin and it’s got a nice paper cup around it? The paper cup really makes the muffin look nice, right? Well, you could have the nicest paper cup in the world, the muffin is still what I’m interested in. And you know what? I’ve never not wanted a muffin because the paper cup looked a bit rough.
Not one bit
If there’s boobs, I’m in
No guy will care
Little late to the party. Did someone say boobs?
I probably need to see what this all looks like before I comment
No, and frankly itâs weird if a dude gets hung up on that.
Generally speaking, I really donât even think about the bra unless itâs coming off and then itâs really only to the extent of âohfuckohfuckohfuck itâs happening stay calm everybody stay calm. STAY FUCKING CALMâ
https://youtube.com/shorts/M9A7qOwcoKA?si=v6RjBCtvtxXPDAXN
relevant Katt Williams bit about what men think about things like nail color. We feel the same about panties
Nope. It’s what’s inside them that counts.
As a boob guy… I mean they help you put your best tit forward for a first date. A hint of a high quality silky bra peeking out is nice. Plus I mean the lift and shape can make a difference.
Is every guy like me? No. Is every guy like the rest of these redditors commenting that it doesn’t matter at all whatsoever? No.
Nope. Just be you.
If you get a cheeseburger, do you care if it comes wrapped in paper, foil, or in a tiny togo box? Id wager most people dont spend a lot of time fretting over how its packaged. Whats inside is the important bit.
My husband always says I’m free to go braless, and he’ll hold them for me.
If it comes to the point that he sees your bra and what’s under it i don’t think there is a straight guy out there who cares.
I mean, does some sexy lacy thing do something for me? Yes, of course. Am I going to be disappointed if it’s just something generic? Not at all
Packaging is irrelevant to the end user.
No, we don’t care
> how much do men actually care?
i know i get bitched out if they ever get put in the dryer.
Guys, bras are hang to dry.
Straight guys like seeing that area, regardless of what does or doesnât cover it. Being granted access is an honor, and anyone who has any understanding of the world knows that.
Source: am straight male.
If a guy cares more about what you’re wearing than what you’re not wearing, hes dumb, vain, and should be dismissed with extreme prejudice.
They care about what’s under the bra and undies not what they look like or the color…. Clean is the only standardâźď¸
I am president of the itty bitty titty club and wear only bralettes. Theyâre great!