I (32F) have been out of an abusive relationship for a year now, I’ve done a lot of soul searching and self growth. I’m Australian and I’m solo travelling to Scotland and London later this year. I feel stuck at the moment, I do have a good steady job and that’s hard to come by. I was considering moving to Scotland, I would probably have to get a hospitality job and would be a massive upheaval. I wouldn’t earn a lot, and that worries me. I don’t know if I’m being impulsive or I should just travel once a year instead of moving. Any advice would be great!
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How rooted are you in your current life?
TBH, it’s very hard to just up and move. If you make a good money where you are and have a definite future career plan, staying put is the best option. Just make sure to keep traveling and spending quality time on yourself whenever you get a chance. I thought about immigrating during Trump 1.0. Both spouse and I had well paying jobs. Moving away would’ve put us back financially. So we decided to stay. Now that there’s Trump 2.0, I have no other option but to stay put. We might go crazy watching the news amid the destruction of our democracy, at least we will be crying in our new built paid off house and fancy cars with enough in our retirement. 😆
If you’re trying to get away from your ex I’d recommend staying in Australia and just finding your same job somewhere else. Starting over for little money in this economy may be a headache that’s more trouble than it’s worth.
If you can afford the travel (which you clearly can!) just ask to take a sabbatical from your current job.
Honestly, make the move. You can always move back. Maybe it is impulsive 🤷🏾♀️ You just went through something horrible and taking a leap of faith is exactly what you need! (I’m talking to myself too lol.) Congrats on saving yourself ❤️
Uprooting your entire life can be an amazing adventure, and could lead you who knows where and with whom in your future. I recommend it – but it’s never easy, and it’s never a solution to a problem. It’s just a new and different set of problems, but it can be rewarding and it can literally set you on a different path. I guess I would say, ask yourself whether what you’re seeking right now is stability and safety (stay where you are and enjoy the holidays) or adventure and challenges (take that plane and take the leap).
Hey! Well done for getting out of an abusive relationship.
If you secure a good job beforehand, then it sounds like a dream. I know sometimes it feel likes you need to move in order to move along further in life.
Have you considered remote work in your current position? If that’s an option for you, that would be wonderful, move to a location of choice and work remote.
If I could, I would. Different to your circumstances but I wanted to teach English in Spain and do a working holiday in Ireland. Gave up both dreams to have a baby and now I’m past the age bracket and have a toddler. I could have easily done both things on my own but it meant leaving behind my partner who didnt want to a leave Australia and quitting my job. All to say, if you have the option and confidence, go for it. You can always come back if you change your mind.
I think it might be a good idea if you think it all the way through. Pick a city, research rent prices, hospitality job wages, food prices, make a financial plan and see if you can live there on a low-wage job. I don’t know what’s your job now, but if I were to move like that, I’d try to find a company that’s hiring for a similar position that I have in my country that has offices in Scotland, see if you can move there and work for them from Scotland. I’d also check how health insurance works in Scotland, how can you get it as a foreigner, like research everything before you make the final decision. Maybe ask on their subreddit what should you know/figure out before moving there as an Australian.
Depending on your field, I would personally try to find a job first before moving. Cost of living ain’t no joke. But now you can set the search to worldwide!
Do it! Worst case you are home again in 12 months.
I think you should move if you are yearning for change and looking forward to new places, people and experiences but not if just to escape the relationship. I have done moving counties multiple times and it can be rewarding but you need a plan career wise (even a loose one but something to work towards) and also don’t underestimate the fact of not having your family and friends in the new country.