My boyfriend (19M) had a birthday recently. We’re really broke and both worked that day but despite this I (19F) tried my best to make it as nice for him as possible. I woke him up with a nice breakfast, got him gifts, and got him a cake. However, I also planned to put on a sexy lingerie to entice him into bed. I ended up not doing this because it just felt stupid.
I figure that my boyfriend sees me everyday so how would that be special for him? Honestly, what probably would’ve been nice for him would’ve been me getting another woman for him to have for the night HAHA.
We’ve been together for a year and a half so he’s seen me naked countless times. We have sex fairly often, although he’s told me he wishes we would do it more.
Am I thinking about this wrong? I just don’t see any point in dressing up if he sees me all the time. I’m not attractive either so when I do I just feel stupid.
EDIT: I’d like to add, I don’t think it’s worth it because he looks at other women online and whatnot. Even if he didn’t, he sees attractive women everyday so I don’t see a point in trying to amount to them.
TL;DR : I don’t dress sexy for my boyfriend because I don’t see the point. Am I thinking about it wrong?
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Effort is sexy! Man, woman, straight, gay, whatever, making an effort to be attractive to your partner is always appreciated
Edit: also you could role play as another woman for the night instead of actually recruiting one! It’s a win-win!
Yes because it signals desire. More than “I’m naked let’s do this” like “I’ve really been looking forward to sex” which in itself is sexy
Yes you are wrong. I have seen my wife naked a million times and I love it every time. I will never get tired of it.
what gets him going? some guys love lingerie, others dig french maid outfits, others like stilettos and leather skirts, while other guys are into yoga pants or sweatpants. some guys like it all, and some guys could care less.
ask him!
Ask him! Very few guys would ever get tired of seeing the person they love naked.
Mine does. He likes it a lot. He really appreciates the effort
Yes you are wrong. Men absolutely love it.
I’ve been with my husband for 14 years (married for 12) he still loves when I put on lingerie.
I’ve seen my wife naked many times and we are naked around each other when we’re at home and it isn’t too cold for her. But when she puts on thigh highs i know she means business. She knows i like them and even though i know every part of her body, it does add a little spice to the whole experience.
My advice would be to find out what your mans poison is. Everybody has something that they like. Then work from that info. It’s different for everybody, so nobody can give you an answer that will be perfect for your situation. But as others have pointed out, you making an effort is a good sign. It shows him that you desire him. That is something we all want on some level, to be the object of desire for somebody.
Yes it’s sexy and shows you care. Wearing nothing is also great so I’m happy either way. Something as simple as thigh highs can be fun, sexy, easy, and can stay on while you’re doing it.
Yes, because it shows effort.