I feel like the idea of it is often bigger than the reality. People build it up in their minds, but when it finally happens, it might not be as extraordinary as they expected or maybe, in some cases, it truly is worth the hype.
What’s your take on it?
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some do, some dont I guess
Some people find it a pain in the ass..
I enjoy it but its not enough to sway me to do things now that Ive had it. Like the thought of it made me want to pursue it when i was, but now that ive had it its not something that I would become a dumbass in the pursuit of or picking one person over another for a relationship
Its probably safe to say it was overhyped for me. I think teenage boys put value on it because of peer pressure. Youre lesser for not having had it, which is a stupid way to feel because its a totally arbitrary reason to put your self esteem in the hands of others, whether its people you think will think youre cool for having sex or the opposite sex in general.
cant speak for others disappointments
but someone who knows the importance of r/foreskin_restoration i’ma say that sexual experiences are like having glasses for the first time when you can get a taste of what it’s like to have a healthy body
From about 16-38 I did. Enjoyed the fuck out of it.
At 42…meh. That last 3 seconds is solid but the rest is just a lot of work and patience
I can’t speak for everyone, but personally I enjoy it more than I ever thought possible when I was still a virgin
I enjoy it in all its wonderful complexity FAR more than I had imagined as a virgin! And I did a LOT of imagining what it would be like as a virgin!
It took me years of practice and research to get any good in bed.
Then I discovered that people who care only about sex are really boring people outside of bed.
Then I quickly discovered that the people I actually cared about didn’t care about sex as much as I did, so I had to curb my urges to be with the people I wanted to be with.
Then I gave up and retired.
Then I tried to come out of retirement and realized I was right back to being an awkward teenager again.
So I gave up again.
When I lost my virginity it was a disappointment because it hurt, and I bled. Also, he lasted like literally 5 seconds. I don’t think anyone’s first time is good lol but after that, it didn’t hurt and it feels nice and all but like.. nothing great. I have better and easier orgasms from just masturbating. It has been years since I’ve had sex. I do miss it at times, but I’m not into hookups at all and I don’t want to be in a relationship so it’s off the table for me. And that’s fine. I enjoy my vibrator. Sex is overrated in my opinion.
It feels like you are missing out on the greatest thing in the world then you have it and it’s oh whatever and the thought of it is better. At least in my experience. And it’s still something to look forward to.
It’s like when food smells really good but when you eat it it’s just ok.
Even more than I imagined
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Even more so, at least for me.
Some do and some don’t. I personally didn’t. I made such a big deal out of it and thought it would be amazing and was disappointed.
it was simultaneously so much better and much more mediocre than i imagined
No I can take it or leave it. Maybe porn ruined it for me but it’s hard to cum as a guy I almost have to force myself to not make a women feel bad and blowjobs don’t feel good to me. Only thing I like is seeing their pleasure during sex
and even more.
to me sex is not just the act. but the foreplay that comes with it. all the naughty stuff i whisper in her ear to get her wet througout the day, the booty carresses to get in the mood, the kiss with the littlebit of tongue to let her know she will be mine soon.
once we get to the act its meal time you know. we are both hungry for each other and the actual act of penetration is just the cherry on top.
It might be disappointing if you’ve been watching porn and then fumble around like a dumbass the first time, but it’s amazing once you figure out what you’re doing. Sorta like how professional sports are not the same thing as trying a sport yourself for the first time.
Much more.
I enjoy it more
When I wear a condom, i make sure she enjoys it. When I do it raw, i enjoy it.
Absolutely not
I enjoy it way more lol when I was a virgin I had no idea it could be this good
I was underwhelmed until I actually had really good sex with someone I was super into.
Sex is amazing and overrated at the same time. Foreplay on the other hand can be like your favorite bands greatest hits album. But like wine it all gets better with age
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When I finally got there I found it a massive let down for I had been lead to believe it was this magical experience to consider it was at best a wet wank
Fortunately having done it, to in event get it out of the way so to speak, I didn’t need to go there again to choose a life of celibacy
Having sex is certainly different from masturbation, but an orgasm will always just be an orgasm regardless of whether it’s with a person or alone.
I enjoy it much more – I only considered the physical and visual aspect back before I did it.
yupp!! you’ll do it when you’re with the right person!!
With the right person it’s transformative.
The very first time you have sex, it’s awesome…..for about 5 seconds. But it’s still awesome.
Pretty much, yeah 🙂 it’s great with the right partner!
Didn’t have it for the last 1.5 years. I’m virgin again I guess
So much more…
Actually No,
Anticipation of sex, and desire/fantasy of sex is much more appealing than actual experience.
Actual penetration is really underwhelming
Not at first bit when i stopped w p**n and wank i love it
Yes. As a Virgin, I just imagined sex as an act. But to do it with someone I was madly in love with was beyond what I’d imagined.
Can’t live without it for more than 2 weeks
I was the horniest thing on the planet as a young woman, then, when I actually had sex, it was boring and I couldn’t feel much. I have no interest now. Like a chore.
Not at first experience, but as soon as you get the hang of it ( 3rd, 4th try).
Two things are quite important, the right partner and your openness and frankness to your own body.
Sex is really amazing and the same as any other skill one can learn and be better at it.
Personally when I first started having sex it was a massive disappointment, an uncomfortable chore I didn’t get much satisfaction from
Once I found bdsm and an experienced partner that cared about my orgasm it was overwhelmingly addictive
I did when I was 20, because one night the fantasy I had when I was a virgin came true: sex like in the cheesy romance novels. All the boxes were checked. He was a hot gym rat, a little dominant but romantic, and he was huge downstairs. We were both in college, but he went to the military first, so he was 8 years older and had his own place. The most erotic times of my life.
When I was in high school and in my early 20s it was more exciting. But now I’m married and it feels more connected if that makes sense. We’re busy so we have dry stretches but then will fuck like rabbits for a week or two.
Never imagined sex as something unbelievably good when I was virgin. Like literally I wasn’t surprised by any mean when I first had it
It’s a 1000x better.
I think it depends on the person and situation. It’s not always the best thing ever. Some sessions are great, others embarrassing. I think if you do it with love and respect, it has the potential to be as good as imagined
I always thought having hookups/casual sex would be amazing, but it fell flat, whereas being with someone you really love is better than I could have ever imagined