Do people offer more empathy to those that are better looking?
Is it a privilege in a way that life is easier if you’re good-looking?
Do people offer more empathy to those that are better looking?
Is it a privilege in a way that life is easier if you’re good-looking?
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Yeah
Absolutely. They call that “pretty privledge”.
As someone who was an ugly duckling, absolutely yes. There’s a world of difference between how I was treated pre and post glow up.
Yes.
I’m tall, and was pretty good looking in highschool and into my late 20s.
Girls at school would randomly approach me and touch my hair(curly)without asking.
In my 20s I could say just about anything, and the women would laugh. One woman I didn’t like but she kept texting me, so a buddy told me to ask her for sex and she’d leave me alone…. so I did… she started sending me nudes and asked me when we could meet up..
When I was on dating sites I’d get a dozen or so messages a day with the same message “Hey!!! Are you really 6’5?”
Not if they have a shitty attitude
Yes, throughout history. Ugly people are not treated well.
Yes, there are studies on it. Lookup the “halo effect”
But I think it’s a bit incorrect to call it a “privilege”; it’s not like there are laws which benefit ‘pretty’ people as a group
Yes.
I had a BF who lost weight from 250 lbs to 160 lbs and he noticed that men and women are nicer to him. When he was overweight, people would avoid eye contact with him. He is a good looking guy skinny and less attractive when he was overweight. (I met him after he had lost the weight)
It swings both ways, some treat us better and then I have noticed others out of what is probably jealousy treat us horribly right from the jump for no reason at all. Either way it all balances out
Yes”they definitely are treated better.
Yes. Yes. And yes. lol.
Sometimes.
One time on a work trip I mentioned how the girl at the hotel Starbucks was giving out free refills and my coworkers grumbled “… they didn’t offer me free refills”
it’s called “lookism”
If you’re asking people on Reddit the answer is a black and white yes. Looks are literally the only thing that matters. If you are attractive you can not have problems – it is not possible
Go into the real world and you’ll realise it’s more complicated than that.
There are plenty of very good looking people that rarely leave the house because they have crippling anxiety.
Imagine being that person, walking down the street thinking fuck yes I’m doing it!!
They’re in a good mood and feeling good about themselves for the first time in months. They go to a shop and because they’re happy the cashier engages well with them. They feel great.
Then go home and realise the person behind posted “can’t believe how easy some people have it. Super good looking guy in front just got much better treatment cos he’s way better looking”
Meanwhile the person is like what the fuck that isn’t what happened at all.
Don’t get me wrong, people can treat people better because they’re better looking.
They can equally be absolute cunts to them because they’re jealous. Attractive and popular people get a lot of shit from people, it comes with it’s own struggles if you have things other people want even if you didn’t ask for them or see them yourself
Yes and there are plenty of studies to back it up.
Depends if it’s a woman or male who thinks who are pretty. If you are a woman a man will give you pretty privilege. If a woman finds you pretty you are instantly competition in most cases and zero privilege for you !!
Yes
Yeah. Duh.
Survival of the prettiest.
Absolutely. Research show you have socio economic advantages if you’re conventionally beautiful. You’re more likely to be hired if you’re attractive, get better grades, you’re less likely to receive a “guilty” verdict if you’re on trial and attractive people often have better social skills simply because people are more likely to want to engage with them, among other things.
The downside is for instance that pretty women are often thought to be less intelligent, that attractive people often see more hostiluty from others of the same sex and that attractive parents are more often thought of as worse parents than unattractive parents.
Source: “Do we treat “attractive” and “unattractive” people differently? (Danish article)
Do Good-Looking People Really Have Easier Lives Than Everyone Else? (English)
A couple thoughts…
– A) we are talking a bit of a subjective thing. But there are scientists who try to catagorize and measure ‘beauty’… Symatry and lack of blemishes and the like. Almost trying to find a number to put on it… And why we react to someone with more instinctual preference than another.
-B) With that, in a service industry, they may have a ‘head start’ as they have been flattered so long…. But confidence and openness goes a HUGE way. Having model looks might get more photos taken on a red carpet, so, sure, ‘better treatment’…. But stop me to ask about the allergies your kid has and be friendly and genuine… Vs. Snapping fingers saying ‘Can I get another glass of wine?’. The first is getting the attention and service more.
Looks gives you status, the higher your status the better you’re treated so yes
It’s not about appearance, it’s about money, appearance just creates a perception of how the person’s money is.
There is typically a correlation between looks and social class. The worse someone’s looks, the more broke they are perceived to be. The better someone looks, the more people think that person has money or is good with money.
People don’t have to actually be broke to be treated like shit, they just need to look like it. The opposite also holds true.
Sometimes but sometimes they’re also targets of malicious envy.
Counterpoint to pretty privilege is that added desireability also makes you a target for unwanted sexual advances and assault. It’s not that every body doesn’t deal with this, just that the more people are attracted to you the more of that bullshit you have to deal with, in theory.
As a woman in my 40s, I have grey hair. When I wear a hat, people check me out and comment at me publicly. When take my hat off, I’m less attractive and people leave me tf alone. I like that my appearance (say a ‘7’ or so) made finding a partner easy. I have no interest in attracting anyone outside of my relationship. I have been sexually assaulted quite a few times. Now that I’m less desirable, I’m much happier. I dress frumpily unless I’m out with my husband because male attention when I’m out with my kids is, frankly, terrifying.
Yes – Though pretty people will often deny it
Yes
Yes because if we humans see an attractive person, it’s biological to want to mate with them to improve the species.
Yes, all the time.
honestly, yeah. people who are good looking get treated better usually BUT some people choose by the person’s personality. for example, when i was younger i would get treated differently- badly- because people thought i was ugly and fat, but now it kind of changed because of a “glow up”. but in some cases like my boyfriend, he chose me because i apparently had a really good personality and my looks are just a cherry on top.
Absolutely 💯. Unless they open their mouth and wind up having a horrible personality
Yes and no. Pretty privilege is a thing. But… some people are jealous of you being pretty so they are being rude to you.
Yes.