I feel bad for crying about something because crying won’t really change things. I also hate crying about it bec it’s so exhausting. I feel bad for even wanting to cry bec everything else is really ok except for this one thing that eats away at me sometimes. I want to cry but I also don’t. I don’t want to go down that hole where I feel sorry for myself.
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If your body needs the release, let it! It’s not shameful and it’s not letting yourself feel bad. I cry when I’m sad, angry, frustrated, confused, overjoyed, laughing hilariously, sometimes I have no idea why.
I work in mental health and let me assure you: crying absolutely DOES change things. To bring evidence, though, I’m going to use a different function. You ever have a sneaky sneeze that tickles your nose so much you can’t even focus, but you just can’t seem to produce the actual sneeze? Crying works exactly like that. Crying helps reduce physiological strain that disrupts out focus, regulation, and mindset so we can actually think. Crying is an amazing biological function that we can use to optimize our wellbeing or a function we refuse to use to the detriment of it.
No, I cry whenever I want to cry.
I went through a crying phase and it was due to perimenopause. If that could be you, read all you can. Perimenopause sneaks up on far too many women.
Oh my god if I were to feel bad about every time I cried I would feel bad almost every day.
As I get older everything makes me cry (thanks perimenopause). You shouldn’t feel bad about crying. It is a normal human reaction.
No, I cry all the time, I mean not 24/7 but when I feel the need.
It’s ok to cry!
I cry at work when I need to. Then I get back to work.
Who says you shouldnt? And why do they get to decide? It’s a release of emotion. I think of it as the opposite of bottling it up. Gotta get it out.
I usually feel better after crying even though circumstances remain the same.
It’s hard to be more specific since you weren’t very specific.
It’s ok to be sad, disappointed, feel grief or anger and to cry as a result. I think of crying as just an acknowledgement and release of those emotions so they aren’t just dwelling inside and festering. It’s not gonna stop those feelings but it can make them seem less intense.
Crying for me is like a cleansing from the inside out & a wonderful release.
Girl, I cry at the end of terminator 2. Let them tear ducts work
This is me sometimes. I need to cry but I feel pathetic so I don’t allow myself to. Or I feel I need to cry and allow myself to but it doesn’t come out and I feel so frustrated at myself. My usual place to cry is the shower. I sit down on the floor and just let myself cry it all out while feeling the water wash over me. It soothes me somehow. Even when I can’t cry sometimes, just sitting on the floor of the shower and feeling the water on me while I’m sad and my head is brimming with all kinds of thoughts or feeling so much helps.
Sometimes when I’m feeling very vulnerable and I can’t cry because I feel I shouldn’t, I find a corner in my room that’s hidden. Like a tiny spot in my dressing room and I just bury myself inside. I can’t cry but I just bury my face in my hands and I feel somehow “hidden” from the world and myself even. I can’t cry but it’s just a place I sit in and allow the emotions to pass if they can.
The place lately I always end up crying in when I know for sure I shouldn’t is in my car. Several times I would be seeing someone—he said demanding hurtful to me or I felt jealous or overwhelmed or heartbroken so I end up crying in the car. I feel embarrassed cuz it might show and other people will see me crying in traffic light, but I honestly don’t care anymore.
I let me myself get it out, raise the volume or the radio. Cry it all out and take the longer route home to give me space to get it all out before reaching my destination.
Hope this helps. In a nutshell I’m of the opinion that you should always allow yourself to cry. Don’t hold anything back. Let it out. It’s healthier. But when you can’t, find a ritual or habit that can soothe you. For me it’s sitting under the shower on the floor trying to cry or let it wash over me or driving.
I like to put on something sad. Gives me “something to cry about.”
But also I question if it’s crying thats exhausting or if crying lets you feel what you’re really feeling.
My therapist tells me that it’s ok to cry and let it out. Just don’t stay in a state where you do nothing but cry. It healthy to let emotions out. It helps to process.
It’s taken me awhile, but I’ve been trying it and she’s right. I’m currently going through a breakup with the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, moving, and my senior dog is in end stage kidney failure. I lost my other senior boy in December. I’ve shed a lot of tears in the last 5 months. But I’ve found that letting it out really helps. I’m able to process and then go about my day.