I’m assuming this question has been asked a lot. But I’m trying to be positive being in my 30s now. I wasn’t expecting to feel like the world turned on me the moment I turned 30.
Also for some reason the traumas of my life have come to the surface and it’s been really difficult to deal with. I’m 31 and I don’t want my 30s to be rough. I’m grateful for all of this to come to the surface so I can heal. But it’s been catastrophic to my mental and physical health.
So I guess I’m looking for some hope that 30s can be an amazing decade for women contrary to what society pushes out there and that healing is possible in this time of life. I guess I’m scared to waste time.
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Turning 40 next week. And more so in the back half of my 30s than front half.
Sometimes. Less so than I did in my 20s, but that might be just being in the thick of it, you know?
I’m 41, and yes. I’d say I hit my prime within the last 2-3 years.
Yes, I feel the best mentally and physically than I ever have. I have a very active social life, eat pretty well, exercise regularly, and have a pretty successful career. I feel like I’m thriving. However, I have been trying to date the last couple of months and it has been a crapshoot so I guess men don’t agree. Annoying AF but whatever. Becoming who I am was never for men. I did hope a relationship would be a byproduct of being happy and healthy, though
36, I feel like I’m entering it!
I have grappled with some past trauma a lot more closely in my 30s instead of pushing it to the side and ignoring it like I did in my 20s. It’s not a fun process but the only way out is through. Let yourself feel the tough feelings and process them in your own time. Get the professional help you need to aid this process. Give yourself lots of TLC and room to heal.
And finally, don’t delay joy. You say you’re scared to “waste time” — you can process and heal while you progress. Interested in something? Pursue it wholeheartedly. I have at least three new hobbies I want to pursue this year. I have more interests than time. A full and satisfied inner life can coexist with your trauma and even help it along. Don’t wait to be “healed” first.
You can do hard things! 🙂
Yes, and I’m 50 👍🏻
Yes I do. I feel the most physically fit ever and I’m also earning the most in my career. I’ve also become great at setting boundaries and cutting people off that cross those boundaries. Overall, despite everything that’s been happening in the world/economy, I am very content with where I am and how far I’ve come.