So me and my SO were having a discussion, bottom line :
I told her that when I’m watching porn sometimes I imagine doing the same thing with her and other times I imagine that porn star doing those things to me.
She told me that she has never imagined herself with anyone else and she considers me imagining as cheating.
What are your thoughts?
Do you also imagine yourself in the scene? Is that normal or is it generally considered as cheating?
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Hello ! I totally think it is normal personnaly. I am gay and into a relationship of 5 years. I’ve imagined so many things while watching porn (involving my bf, other men, me etc etc). It is normal in my opinion.
The wrong part would be doing something with someone else (which you are not)
Here you are just alone with your mind and what you think of the video. Nothing bad here. Let’s picture this : would it be bad to have dirty thougth of you and your GF ? No. And you with someone else ? Hmm maybe a bit weirder but not bad. It’s just imagination.
As long as you enjoy your sexual life, she has nothing to fear about that
I don’t think of the people in it or of people irl.
I’m literally watching the act and that’s it.
Yes, I tend to imagine myself in the scene. It’s one of the most common ways porn arouses the viewer is by making you feel like the sexual scene is happening to you. This is why PVO is common in porn.
I absolutely imagine myself in the scene
i’m just turned on by what i’m seeing and allow that heat to carry over to what i’m doing
She sounds very naive and immature. Fantasy is not infidelity. I fantasize about fucking Jason Momoa, but I wouldn’t actually do it.
Don’t tell her about that any more.
She’s young and inexperienced. I know I imagine I’m the male performer. And no my S/O does not consider it cheating, but we are in the over 40 crowd. Experience.