Do you wear headphones out and about so people don’t talk to you, but they still try to?

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I wear headphones on occasion to signal I’m not available to engage with but people (especially men) still try to talk to me. It’s super annoying and I just ignore them. Is there anything else I can do so I’m left alone?

I’m the type to always choose self checkout at the grocery store if it’s an option because I don’t enjoy small talk with people. I just want to keep to myself most of the time.

I’d be invisible if given the chance. I’ve been catcalled, told I should smile, followed in grocery stores, men not leaving me alone on the subway, all these things so many woman deal with and it’s exhausting. Will it ever end? I’m about to be 39 and it hasn’t stopped yet.

Comments

  1. MeditativeMama Avatar

    AirPods with transparency turned on so I can be aware of my surroundings but can also pretend I can’t hear anyone.

  2. MexicanSnowMexican Avatar

    No, I wear headphones because I want to, and people mostly leave me alone headphones or no headphones

  3. fIumpf Avatar

    I don’t and am more and more thankful I’m physically intimidating and not conventionally attractive or seemingly approachable based on these things.

    I’m sorry men treat you this way. It’s vile behaviour.

  4. Scared_Lackey_1954 Avatar

    I’m tall, so if I’m not in the mood I wear RBF, ear phones, and stare straight ahead (over most ppls heads)

  5. Hugh_Biquitous Avatar

    FWIW, I’m a man, but I’ve heard from a number of women that as you age, you get left alone more. I’m sorry this is only a long-term solution, though.

  6. BillieDoc-Holiday Avatar

    Yeah, I even had a few fucker yank on the cord to pull one of our my ear. Don’t count on becoming invisible, especially If you live in a walkable city.

  7. Equivalent_Gur_8530 Avatar

    My resting bitch face deters anyone to speak to me…even when I’m in a good mood and open for conversation. I’m sorry it happens to you, must be super annoying.

  8. lily_of-the_valley- Avatar

    (under 30) but i also purposefully do RBF and try to give off the most unapproachable vibes possible, I wear headphones and if men bother me I stare them down with a dead look in my eyes and also straight up record them (as long as i fee safe enough to do so) when they harass me.