Basically me (23f) and my recent situationship (26m) ended things and we were talking things out further when I went to exchange our things. He mentioned that another thing that he thought about in hindsight was because I was always naked (mind you his AC unit was terrible in FL so when I’d get into his room I’d strip my clothes off while we were chillin) that it took away the sexiness of things and desensitized him. We were only seeing each other from mid feb to beginning of June. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing because I’ve never had a man complain about me being very comfortable and loving my body enough to enjoy being naked so much. I’m also someone that doesn’t always sexualize a naked body, I think it can be normal and sexy separately. If anything I thought he was ENJOYING me always having my clothes off. But in hindsight he wanted me in lingerie, which we never once talked about. I ended up calling my best friend and she was just as shocked and said she thought it was a hot take coming from a man. It stung a little bit although I don’t completely understand where he’s coming from. So just curious is this a common take?
Does a woman comfortable with being naked often take away the sexiness of a her when it comes to intimacy?
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I feel that opinion will vary between men. For me though it does not. Being comfortable naked to me shows confidence which is attractive.
If a man is not intimate because your nudity has become common, then he probably placed more emphasis on your body than on your soul and personality. While I understand that it isn’t as exciting to slowly remove a lover’s clothing when they’re always naked, there should be more to a relationship than just sharing moments where both are naked. Attraction happens with the visual, but building bonds that last should be deeper than just skin deep. If you’re not building those bonds (both of you) then the relationship is doomed.
Definitely, my now ex wife was naked 24/7 . Desensitized me big time. And don’t shit wit the door open and come out feeling frisky 😂
For me, it absolutely takes away from the intimacy. If you’re always naked, what is there to look forward to.
I mean look, for some odd reason I really like to look at dressed girls, be the one who undresses them, and touch naked girls.
If she’s exiting the shower completely naked without even the towel on, I don’t find it hot. It’s like someone gifting you a birthday present in a see through box. Misses that one step.
If she undresses her herself, she did it to fast and I don’t find it hot. I want to be the one dictating the tempo and treat it like a snack. Enjoy every inch.
But if I’m ready for touching, then ofc I want it all off.
With that in mind, if I would be seeing you completely naked around me, all the time, without a free-use agreement, I would also need to get desensitised otherwise it would not work.
I rolled my eyes at situationship and rolled them harder at talking things out. Who knows if he was expressing a real opinion, or rationalizing being unable to commit, or trying to neg you or what.
I think you’ve learned that just because you’re naked doesn’t automatically mean your significant other is happy about it. If you turn nudity into a mundane thing, then it will definitely lose its appeal. If you’re just kind of slouched around with your bits hanging out, that can be very off putting. Do you invite your house guests to sit on the same seat cushions that you’ve been sitting on without underwear…?
He’s weird and completely wrong.
The vast majority of men would appreciate their woman wearing less around the house & it in no way takes away from her “sexiness”
Kick him to the curb
Not everyone will feel the same, but I don’t think all men will have a problem with a woman being naked in front of them. But some men find the imagining of being naked while women are wearing lingerie, over the nakedness. I had an ex who was a stripper and was very comfortable being naked and I never had any problems with it.
I can kinda get where he’s coming from. A lot of the excitement that comes from seeing someone naked is built around the fact that you don’t normally see them naked. If you see someone naked all the time it will become more “normal” in your head.
However I love that my wife has always been willing to be in various states of undress when she’s home alone or with just me. Yeah, it does sort of take away from the instant “wow” factor when I come home and see her in just her underwear again, but sometimes I do see her across the room and I’m still like “awww yeaaaah,” and that’s after living with her for 8 years. And I still love her body as much as I used to when we first started dating, and when things do start getting hot and heavy that “wow” factor does come right back because it shines the “sexy” context on something I see every day. And that all being said, nowadays the times I see her and think “holy crap let’s go to the bedroom now” tend to be times that she wears certain dresses or outfits that really highlight her natural beauty.
Also it makes me feel special that she is comfortable enough with me to be naked around so much.
So I don’t think you did anything wrong by choosing to be comfortably naked around him. I can get where he’s coming from about how seeing you naked became less special, but I’ve never felt that so severely that I stopped finding my partner sexy. That’s a little weird.
And I can even get what he said about wanting you to wear lingerie to make things sexy, as long as that wasn’t the only way he could find you sexy. Lingerie works because it teases the sexiness. It hides all the good stuff but is designed to make you really want to see it. It can accentuate curves and body shapes.
But if that was something he was wanting and didn’t get, it’s his fault for not having a respectful and honest conversation about it. Not only could that have helped him with whatever his issues were, that could have been a really fun and sexy thing to do/talk about together. If he never brought it up, that’s on him.
All this does is confirm that he wanted to be a bit more controlling out of the bedroom. You do you. There’s nothing wrong frequently being naked or almost naked in private, especially when it’s hot as hell
And especially for a “situationship” I def wouldn’t be complaining
Depends on the fella and depends on the gal. I’ve dated a lot of women (not bragging, I’m just middle aged so I’ve had lots of time to work on it) and a few of them were very very hot. Like super model hot. I never wanted them to put their clothes on.
Then there are the vast majority of the women I dated where I was like, “ok enough. Maybe put on one of my t-shirts and leave a little to the imagination.” And, fyi, these were the healthiest overall relationships I had. The super models were all… difficult to date.
Then there were three or four that made me question why I was dating someone who wasn’t really my type.
You did nothing wrong. If he cannot verbalize and communicate his feelings with you. Then you are better off with someone who uses the damn AC and communicates. I live in Texas and I keep my AC at 75 during the summer days. 70 at night. Winter I drop it to 62 at night.
If you’re hot and comfortable, by all means, take stuff off. But your underwear is not going to be the difference maker and taking it off and being naked all the time will make the sex appeal go away. Trust me, I was the bouncer at a strip club.
Maybe you’d get all hot and bothered the first couple of nights, but when all your coworkers are in lingerie or sexy outfits all the time, you start to find newfound appreciation for sweatpants, hoodies, and street clothes.
You’re trying to paint him like some oppressive sexist, that’s probably why he doesn’t want anything anymore. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who describes me finding insufficient sexual pleasure from them simply being naked as complaining about “being very comfortable in my body and loving my body.”
He’s boyfriend material, you’re not. Simple explanation and answer.
Nah. Being truly comfortable nude is even sexier.
Not at all, I enjoy my wife being nude or in various states of undress. I like to feel skin on skin contact when we’re cuddled up.
For me personally, there is a level of desensensitizion that happens when I see my wife naked all the time. There is a shock value that comes with clothed sexy bits that are uncovered when I’m not used to seeing them. However…even if seeing them loses its shock value, touching her does not. Because for us, sex is about intimacy and connection. That requires me to interact with her.
Yes, I would prefer my wife remain clothed so that her nakedness would be special when I get to see it. She is able to tease me by flashing me or acting like she’s going to show them and doesnt. Or invites me to kiss her while I play with her breasts slowly and take my time revealing them. But like you said, a girl gets hot sometimes and needs to take off her shirt and bra and I understand that.
I get where he’s coming from. I have an ex that wanted to be naked all the time and I wasn’t crazy about it then. Maybe this is another example of women not understanding men’s sexuality, as we literally have to turn the horny off in order to behave normally in social situations. Taking your clothes off is a universal indicator that sex is coming and it’s safe to turn the horny back on. Having a woman who is constantly nude in your presence, whether there’s going to be sex or not, represents a break in the routine. Folks need their routines.
When I experienced this with my ex it ended with hurt feelings. We had each bought new books and were lying on opposite ends of the bed reading them and she was naked, and had been for a few hours. The way she was laying I could see her clam over the top of my book and I just… didn’t want to in the moment. I wanted to read my book. So without a single word I angled my bare foot so that it would obstruct my view. I thought she was busy with her book but she noticed immediately.
Not a guy but for me this screams his excuse! There was something else but he can blame his break up on this instead of the real other issue. He probably found someone else dating them secretly then surprise I don’t like you naked!
For liking you in sexy clothes course he never told you then he would have to be open and honest. Which sounds like he can’t be!
My experience was similar! My ex hated me pregnant repulsed him! Yet we had 3 girls together?
I guess im the odd person out. The more my girlfriend or situationship girl is naked, the happier I am, because its what I love seeing girls I dated the most. I always want to strip them down and admire them naked lol. It never lost its appeal or meaning if it happened more often.
No.
My wife is very often naked. It takes away a little bit of the intense acute sexiness but it maintains a lower level of persistent sexiness that I enjoy a lot more.
Umm. I can definitely see it causing desensitization. It’s the first time I hear someone being naked all the time at home? I think this is really something very particular to you. Most people don’t do it.
Please take all opinions on social media with a grain of salt- this is one of those things where its so very much variant and theres no technical right answer because its really up to you and what you want/think/feel.
I want you to know that there are PLENTY of guys who will not at all be desensitized- many would LOVE it.
Id say that you should find a guy who likes or at least doesnt dislike you being naked when yall are alone. I mean really imo unless its a guy who is just really into modesty cuz of religion or culture itd be wild to hear that they DONT want to see a naked woman all the time.
Hell no, love it so much! but guy should have told you (gently) at some point- maybe something like, ‘I want your/our naked times to be super special’ or something along those lines? hard to be diplomatic about stuff like that, everyone is super vulnerable about intimate stuff. Just my two cents here.
No, being a nudist just makes the other times sexier.
I get what he’s saying but it’s not something I’d agree with at all.
On the same note, he’s an adult with the capacity for communication. You shouldn’t feel bad about not reading his mind to somehow know that without him saying it.
No.
It’s exactly the opposite. When she’s comfortable to completely bend over just for me to admire is when I really feel the sexyness
I’m someone who has a very USA way of seeing nakedness (very sexual) that moved to a place where being naked is not necessarily sexual. It has desensitized me. I’ve seen too many people in my social circles naked, so it has desensitized me and it isn’t sexy anymore. Actually, it took a very overt and open invitation of a woman I was fancying to do the oonga boonga with her for me to realize that she wanted me to approach her… Even after seeing her naked and thinking nothing of it… Because I live in a place where public nudity is widely accepted and not really sexual…
So, yeah… Being naked =/= being sexual (to everyone wondering about that sign, it means… It does not equate)
No, for me, it enhances it, not out in public, but with me at home, it shows she trusts me and is comfortable with me.
I do like my partner to dress up in sexy underwear from time to time, and that can increase the sexiness, but I wouldn’t say her being naked often around me lessens the sexiness of it.
Nope.
We’re coming up on 44 years married and I still love to see her naked. We sleep together naked and I still love seeing her at the bathroom counter getting around while I shower.
Yes, we’re old – both 65 – but that has its advantages. If I have off my glasses and the lights are low she still look as good as ever. And in bed she feels the same.
You be you. If you’re comfortable in your skin with a partner, go for it and good for you!
A person being comfortable with being naked does not take away from the sexiness with a confident person. However, humans in general are hyper adaptive so an abundance of nudity will eventually overstimulate and/or desensitize most people given enough time.
I personally as a man will disassociate a naked woman in my personal space from meaning she likes me and wants to be sexy and reassociate it as them just wanting to be comfortable and will leave them alone more often as time goes on, not because I’m less attracted to them but technically you could say her nudity would become less “sexy”.
Absolutely not. Confidence is the biggest turn on. Love your body and get a relationship where you can be comfortable in your own skin.
My ex and I used to walk around naked all the time. It didn’t desensitized me. What was more important was the passion and touch when we were in the mood. At some point we stopped with the casual nudity and I was kind of sad it stopped. But I think that the response to this will probably vary a lot from guy to guy and relationship to relationship.
IDK, sunset is pretty every time I see it, so is a women I love.
Eroticism definitely has a stronger pull than pure sexuality, and therefore, being constantly naked ruins attraction due to leaving nothing up to imagination.
There’s a reason teenagers sexually fantasize about popculture figures way more than about pornstars; pornography is indeed a turn-off, and it’s better not to see than to see when you want to build up desire.
Well you see, there’s good naked and bad naked. Opening a pickle jar and fixing a bike are bad naked
If she is uncomfortable with being naked it kind of makes me less attracted to her.
I don’t think so, I find self-confidence Sexy.
I never had any gf, fwb that were timid, or shy. I also always liked strong aggressive women.
It might be that I am older and my last few girlfriends were in there 30s/40s.
Everyone is shy, worried about getting naked when they are young. I was, up until I was in my late 20s.
There are so many big big L takes here. If you really think a woman “loses” anything when she’s naked a lot of you should calibrate your imp brain and start acting like a real person.
Be naked literally 24/7 and if someone loses his interest in you because of that then it’s 100% on him. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to see me naked the entire time or who I wouldn’t want to see naked as much as possible.
Don’t know how common it is, but skimming the topic and seeing someone say it varies from man to man, that definitely tracks.
I’ve seen literally thousands of girls/women naked throughout my years (though, only a few in person) and it’s never not awesome. Obviously if they’re much older or younger, or related to you, it’s really not awesome, but I also remember being a kid and seeing another kid (a girl), I can’t remember the context, but I remember it awing me even then, though if I could relive the memory (at 45) it would not be sexy at all. And it probably wasn’t, even then, but still took my breath away for a moment.
I used to have a friend I was very much not attracted to (but I would have never said she was unattractive), and she’d change in front of me. We were coworkers, we’d go over to hers, she’d change into something more casual, and we’d go for lunch or dinner or something. At first it was just the outer layer, toss the work shirt and pants, pull on something else. And more often than not, I’d just wait in the front room, but other times we’d be talking and I’d follow and I’d just turn my back when she started showing skin. Until she told me I didn’t have to look away. Still wasn’t attracted to her, but I’m not gonna be rude. Then one day she strips off everything, gives herself a ho bath (wipes under her tits, wipes between her legs, kind of a once-over) before changing into new undergarments and clothes. And it was nice to see.
One day she even asked if I wanted to smash. I forget how she worded it, she was just really horny, and I could tell even at work, she just had that itch, so when we get back to hers, she strips, asks me if I want to get some before she gets dressed. Maybe she rubbed one out then, maybe she just touched it, I dunno. It’s been decades now. It was pretty hot but I still wasn’t into her like that, so I just said “nah I’m good.” Mitigating circumstance: she had a boyfriend, he treated her well, she had no desire to leave him, he just worked long hours and she had a high sex drive. I didn’t wanna fuck up a good thing for my friend, and even with her bare ass naked touching herself, I wasn’t even half mast. But it was still awesome. Even after she got dressed, she asked me if I was even tempted a bit, I think she may have put her fingers up close to my nose to let me get a whiff, and all I could say was that her man was one lucky MF. (I guess I kinda saw her as a big sister at work, though I never actually had a sister, so, not trying to be too weird there.)
Anyway, my point is, even as an “older” guy who was seeing action while you (OP) were in diapers — and I only mean that literally, not pejoratively — no, common/frequent nudity does not make a woman less sexy. You did mention FL with bad AC, so sweat could have been a mitigating factor in the attraction, too. Having a partner who loves being naked would never not be hot for me, but having one who’s completely sweaty because it’s fucking Florida and your AC sucks? Whole different story. We have humidity too, though we’re quite a bit further north — depends where in Florida you are. Never actually been to Florida and have no desire to go there (I want to try the food in Miami but want no part of the traffic, and culturally Florida panhandle probably isn’t much different from GA/SC, both of which I’ve been to). But I’m a good 8 hours from most of Florida. Humidity still sucks. But you might think I know nothing of humidity and I wouldn’t argue with ya.
Why does it matter if it’s common? That’s his take, and that contributed to the end of that relationship. That is done. If you’re unsure, maybe ask the individuals you date how they feel about it.
Sounds like bullshit. Desensitized in a couple months? My dude! Do you even like women? Also, we are constantly exposed to so much female nudity (advertising, porn). That have any effect on you?
Sounds like his brain was trying to process the break up and came up with nonsense justification. Then made the shitty mistake to share it with you.
-male, 43. Has lived in the world and been to many nude beaches, while still finding his girlfriend attractive.
There are certain associations we all have with sex and being naked is one for many people.
I’ve been with my wife for 8 years. She prefers being naked. If she walks out of a room with no clothes I celebrate. If our neighbors were closer they would probably hear, “TITTIES!” 1-2 times daily.
To each his own, but to me this falls more along the line of not confusing lust with love. Considering yall were in a situation not a relationship, makes sense that the novelty would wear off. There are probably a dozen or so people who would be excited to see you nude every day deep into your 100s, just gotta find them.
IMO I think it’s awesome it means you’re confident in yourself. My ex was always in undies when she was around me and I was absolutely not desensitized lol
He’s just trying to shame you. Go ahead and be your nudist self.
Always leave a little mystery
If he cared about you enough it wouldn’t be a situationship and the lack of clothes wouldn’t even register in a negative way.
My gf is like you and I love the fact we just get naked and cuddle at every opportunity.
Try not to overthink this one, he just wasn’t ‘it’ ..
Casual nudity and a woman comfortable in her own skin is hot. Guy you were talking to is nuts.
But then again I never dated anyone who was so visually attractive that I could rely on nudity alone to get turned on in the first place.
I think his attraction to you was just very shallow. Don’t worry about it.
It’s never bothered me. I’ve enjoyed seeing at times, then feeling her at other times.
Definitely not. Being comfortable with one’s body is inherently sexy, and I do wish a whole lot more of us could get over thinking nudity is inherently sexual.
I love being naked all the time and no man ever has made a complaint. One guy that was adamant on lingerie came out as gay. He also couldn’t really perform well so…
While yes I can see that possibly getting old and getting used to it in general a man shouldn’t be so desensitized to his wife
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I personally love it so don’t take his opinion as gospel but I also hate lingerie so I guess him and I are complete opposite here.
Comfortable naked is hot but I can see how always naked could be a tad different
I like naked. I like looking at her. If she wants to spice things up she can briefly wear sexy lingerie.
Sounds like a him problem.
Yes, if she’s a høe, in-person prøstitute or online prøstitute.
It would keep me excited, I would lock the door and you would be free use,, but I can’t get enough, everyone is different.
It would take away from the thrill of unwrapping the package. Getting your partner naked is a good way to build up to the excitement. It can be a tease to disrobe slowly. A person might stop trying to seduce. The chase is half the fun.
I definitely understand where he is coming from. It’s like putting a Christmas gift under the tree that’s not wrapped by the time you can open it you’re kinda over it. But if you put the gift under the tree wrapped you’re excited to open it. Not the perfect analogy but still. Some men will say something silly like “it shows confidence and that’s sexy” stay away from those guys seriously.
That Seinfeld episode re good naked vs bad naked comes to mind.
I think he just got bored with you though, naked or not.
Do you have a nice body?
Good riddance. Probably there are men like that, but the world is of full of dimwits, so…
We sleep naked but once in a while I ask her to dress in lingerie to add to the sexiness but she never does. To me a woman and her ass in a thong is so much sexier than a bare ass.
My girl is naked almost all the time when in home. And honestly I can kinda agree with your partner. You get used to naked body so your brain stop think about it as something special and sexual. I am not so excited to undress my girlfriend after seeing her naked all the time. By the time I think I can say it’s not a good thing for our sexual life
I can’t imagine ever not being excited to see the person I love naked, even if it is constantly.
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Lingerie is sexier than naked.
This was a Seinfeld episode. There’s good naked and bad naked.
It can, but it doesn’t have to.
Nudity isn’t the only way to inspire sexiness. You lose that specific card, and if they easily associate you being nude with your least attractive moments then yeah it can mean some desensitization.
But if they is something else that inspires “hey I wanna be sexy now” then it’s not a huge loss.
Nah I love a person who can be comfortable naked. There’s times I wish I came home not to a sweaty naked body but that’s more of a personal upkeep thing, like if my partner regularly couldn’t be bothered getting up and dressed then yeah that’s not sexy any more it’s slothenly but if we just shagged and you wanna walk around in the nude for a while that’s cool.
Everyone’s different, but for some there is an appeal to the mystery of someone clothed, and seeing them slowly reveal more and more. Additionally, lingerie is usually a pretty clear signal that sexy times are about to happen.
Everyone has different sensibilities, I’m generally of the opinion that being naked is just a predecessor to something that requires it (showering/changing/sex/etc)
My husband 100% gets desensitized to me being nakes all the time… I used to take it as a blow to my self esteem, until I realized it meant that instead it only took a little bit of clothing to get him turned on. So instead of being totally naked, Ill just put on the smallest thinnest tank top I can find and a pair of panties and suddenly he cant keep his hands off me…
Hell, I sleep naked but learned if I just leave underwear on and he happens to touch me and feel them, hes immediately turned on and ready to go lol
Not necessarily. I see my wife naked all the time, and maybe it does not get me in the mood every time (even if I enjoy seeing her), but when she wears that specific outfit that I like… uuuh boy.
You get used a bit to the person, yes, but even if you would not be naked around each other all the time it would still happen. It is normal. We get used to the things that are around us
When you took off your clothes did you have a problem if he tried to do things? We’ll watch tv without clothes on but she doesn’t stop me when I get frisky. If she did, it might desensitize me. Luckily we both love sex.
Men who watch a lot of porn, get addicted to it, get so they want/need variety newness and get so that the visual element becomes more important to arousal. If he’s used a fair amount of porn, this could be a contributing factor.
Arousal can some from intimacy. Our sexual ones culture and easy access to a massive variety of nude women on our phones makes that more difficult.
Today I learned a lot of my bros on askmen are kinda gay. /s
Slight sarcasm.
It’s going to depend on the guy. Personally I’m a fan of it. Hanging out naked didn’t happen much to ever early on with my now wife. She was less comfortably in her body. Now over a decade later, it’s much more common. It’s a sign she’s comfortable being fully exposed and vulnerable around me. It doesn’t take away any of the enjoyment of intimacy when those moments happen. Nudity ≠ sex and intimacy. But there is a level of trust and comfort in your own skin required.
There was a Seinfeld episode about this…
Clothes and I don’t get along much. You’ve got to find your match. Sometimes that can take quite a while. Be patient and don’t get discouraged.
My gf goes naked quite often. I thoroughly enjoy it and it’s made me more comfortable with my own body.
Like you I can sexualize and not sexualize her. But always appreciate her bare form.
Nah. Iam 10 years together with my fiancee. I still get excited for small kisses, whenever she hops around the house in short clothing or no clothing, when she comes from the shower. Basically anytime.
No downgrading in attractiveness or excitement at all.
Sounds like what you mean is you’re *only* comfortable being naked.
If he wanted you in lingerie he should have said so or been surprising you with gifted sets he’d bought for you.
Yeah would for me
There are very few people who look good in every nook in cranny in broad daylight. This increases the chances he’s see that toilet paper piece or patch of hair you missed. Depending on the guy it could be a temporary turn off. There is a reason tv lighting in the dark is the best sex light Lol. You can’t make out the details. Again this applies to 99.9% of us. There are the elite few who are flawless
It’s up to him to engage sex for internal and relational reasons other than his own experience of novelty.
Total nakedness does lose its appeal (IMO) but I’m a bra and panties type anyway, that gets me wild and leaves things to the imagination
My gf and I are naked relatively often when we are alone. Each time she leaves the room I look at her butt and each time I find it sexy.
Yeah I do feel like her being naked around the house often will take away the sexiness when you know she is out there, but I assume it would be a different story when it comes to intimacy.
“Doesn’t sexualize a naked body”
For me it already would’ve been ruined right there. If you’re not gonna treat your naked body as a glorious sight to behold, why tf would I? As a pro wrestling fan, I can tell you from experience, sometimes it’s okay to enjoy things that’s are objectively stupid just to keep a little of magic and intrigue alive.
I feel two ways about it, there is a very real sexiness about a woman that is comfortable enough in her body to walk around naked but at the same time if she’s always naked it really doesn’t give me much to look forward to
I had an ex who was like that. At first, it was very sexy. But like you said yourself, when you’re naked all the time, nudity isn’t sexualized, it’s just normal. If it’s normal and non-sexual, then…it’s not really sexy anymore, is it? Not by itself, anyway. Sure, it’s nice to look at an attractive body, but one of the things that normally makes nudity sexy is that there’s an intentionality to it: if you aren’t normally naked, then you must have taken off your clothes for a reason, and one reason in an intimate relationship is that you want to have sex. A visual signal that your partner wants to have sex is going to be sexy, no matter what that signal is. For you and your ex, and for me and mine, nudity stopped being that signal, so it stopped being sexy. Instead, with my ex (and probably in your relationship, too, judging from your post) lingerie became the “I want to have sex” visual signal. My ex hated bras and preferred to be naked, so when she put on lingerie, I knew there was only one reason for her to do that — and that made it sexy. It looked good too, but then again, so did her being naked. The difference was that if she was just naked, she often wasn’t in the mood, so I learned to cool it and not get worked up over nothing. But if she was wearing lingerie, then it meant she was in the mood, so it was always very exciting.
Men did greater things when it was harder to see boobs.
Being naked all the time takes away from some of that “oh yeah” factor when they disrobe. Not a deal killer but it’s take a bit more to get excited when nudity is the defacto state.
He’s a situationship not a relationships so his preferences don’t really matter, IMO.. sounds like a loser, desensitized lol – maybe he should have bought you some lingerie
Sounds like you two might just not be compatible. I don’t think either one of you are wrong here, although he probably did a shit job communicating what he meant.
I dated a woman once who was kind of like you. She loved being naked. But the problem was, I have a thing for clothing and lingerie. I get way more turned on by a woman being all dressed up than a woman who is fully nude. So with this woman I dated, I would be super turned on when we would go out and she was all dressed up. But then immediately when we got home it was clothes and make up off as soon as we walked in the door.
And after a while this started being a turn off.
Wasn’t enough to be a deal breaker for me. I loved her. And she was a wonderful woman. But it definitely killed a lot of that kind of animal sexual attraction.
So maybe he is like me and has trouble getting turned on by a fully nude woman. That’s okay, he needs to find a woman who enjoys wearing lingerie. They exist.
And you need to find a man that loves seeing you nude. Lucky for you I think most men fall into this camp. I seem to be the oddity that has a thing for clothing.
I’d love a chance to have an opinion!
This is just me, but that’s an enormous turn on. And honestly, separate from that, you be you. Let them tiddies swing wild and free.
As a woman I don’t really have an opinion, but I wanted to point out that there’s an episode of Seinfeld about exactly this! Jerry dates a woman who is always naked, prompting the discussion of “good naked” vs “bad naked.” Bad naked includes being naked while coughing, opening jars, or injuring oneself.
Nah, I’ve seen my wife naked a million times, and it’s still sexy and intimate. I will admit that living with someone pulls back the curtain of mystery surrounding them, but I think it’s just the familiarity of living in close proximity nothing to do with being naked.
No. And if it’s a fetish, I think it’s sadnifnyou can only get excited by your fetishes and not just generic intimacy.
As a married guy, I have to say that I don’t 100% agree with this take BUT do completely understand where it’s coming from. Lemme explain.
Being around a woman that is fully naked but completely nonsexual in the aspect of it seems to trip whatever natural response occurs in the brain when guys normally see a naked girl and immediately wanna get down. So to that point, yeah it makes sense to not always be naked if you wanna be desirable. On the other hand, I’m a little like you, and I don’t always sexualize a naked body. I enjoy admiring my wife naked with or without the sex, so the more often she’s naked, the better. I think it really just depends on if the guy is comfortable admiring you without sex, because if not, he’ll see the nakedness as “unnecessary” and only a means to an end for sex.
It’s perfectly normal to see a woman naked and not have it be an automatic sexual thing. It’s not desensitization. Otherwise, even briefly seeing his mother naked while she was changing would automatically make it a sexual thing for him and it’s not (I’m assuming; I don’t know him).
Dude should just say he likes lingerie and not try to rationalize it like he did. Unless the lingerie MUST stay on during sex, then he has a fetish.
Not for me. I am very open with nudity around the house.