Does anyone else find it weird when people you’re romantically into share their sexual pasts?

I (22F) am quite new to dating and have only had a couple of failed talking stages before. What really pisses me off sometimes is when we’re talking about our pasts and they start mentioning their embarrassing sexcapades.

For example, last time I was talking to this (25M) guy — who really liked me romantically and said he wanted to date me — he told me how he hooked up with X and she got late for her flight. Which, okay — I don’t judge. I’m glad you’re comfortable. But as a hopeless romantic, it just leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. When I say “sharing our past,” I mean telling each other what worked for you in previous relationships and what didn’t, so we can communicate our standards properly. Not swapping stories about how you beat up someone’s ex just to have sex with her. Eww.

After that, I just can’t think of them romantically anymore. Even if they want to date long-term, I can’t engage and usually cut things off. I’d much rather hear someone talk about their career plans — I’d actually consider that a step toward moving long-term.

Just a thought, maybe. But between this and my insecurities, it really hasn’t been the best combo for dating in the long run.

TL;DR: I’m new to dating and can’t stand when guys overshare crude hook-up stories instead of meaningful past relationship insights. It instantly kills my romantic interest, even if they want something long term. I’d much rather hear about values, goals, and standards — not sexcapades — but between that and my own insecurities, it’s kept me from dating much.