Does anyone else notice how effortless and easy it is to talk to their male friends vs a romantic interest ?

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Lack of attraction and no chemistry and lack or compatibility keeps us from being apart from each other but they are good people. I often feel seen and heard

Comments

  1. phoeniks Avatar

    What? Come again?

  2. IAMgrampas_diaperAMA Avatar

    Like we say in Quebec: Hein???

  3. whorundatgirl Avatar

    I outgrew that by my early 20s.

  4. Noragretskatie Avatar

    Yes, when I’m actually attracted to a guy I can’t seem to open up as much.

  5. SlightDelusion Avatar

    I effortlessly flirt with guys I have no interest in and have ZERO game when im actually attracted to a guy. You wouldn’t even know I’m interested lol

  6. cidvard Avatar

    Gay dudes, yes. The cliche exists for a reason.

    IDK what you’re talking about otherwise.

  7. resurrectingeden Avatar

    I think that’s true regardless of gender or sexuality. It’s easier to loosen up and open up when you’re not worried about trying to attract them or keep them interested in you as a dating prospect.

    It allows for honesty and being laid back without motive to mislead or put on a front

  8. IAmMellyBitch Avatar

    My exes (who I broke up with amicably) became really good friends of mine… like now that neither of us are interested in each other romantically we were able to be more open and less likely to feel like we have to be careful how we word things…

  9. callarosa Avatar

    You feel seen and heard when talking to… men? Lol.

    Most men I know live like the world is their podcast and women are just their audience.

  10. Propofolmami91 Avatar

    Yea obviously easier to be yourself/not care to impress someone you aren’t romantically interested in

  11. ciociosan Avatar

    The confusion in this thread is so funny lol

  12. CancerMoon2Caprising Avatar

    Thats emotional unavailability in a nutshell. Severe trust issues and fear of authenticity is an immature unhealthy behavior trait that can prevent a relationship from blossoming.

    The healthiest relationship is supposed to indeed be best friends. No eggshells, no paranoia, and plenty of mutual respect.

  13. deathbydarjeeling Avatar

    Yep, I’m on a committee for the disc golf club with over 50 men. I find it easy to converse with them, yet my crush… *cricket chirps* Funnily enough, he can talk to my bestie who is also a woman, but not to me. I don’t understand why attraction has to change everything.

  14. apearlmae Avatar

    Well yes. Your male friendships usually develop as you cultivate a group of like-minded individuals. Common friends, common hangouts, shared interests.

    That’s why dating is so hard now. The organic meetings are lost to online dating, social media and our reluctance to leave our homes.