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It bonds a family even more i would say. Now if you fight with your wife. You can divorce quite easily. If you have kids you fight for your marriage. If it wasnt for kids i probably be single now. But over the years we got the best relationship ever. We worked through all our differences and fights.
Yep, absolutely. You will no longer be the most important person in your wife’s life. And your wife is going to have a lot less time for you. And both of you will be a lot more tired, especially during the toddler era. On the positive, you hopefully will love seeing your wife being a mother to your kid and caring for your little one. As a whole it does make marriage harder for most people though, but (IMHO, for me) nothing beats the rewards of having and raising kids.
It’s an opportunity for you the two of you to connect and grow on a deeper level. It can break or strengthen your marriage. If you’re a good team together, your love & appreciation for one another deepens.
Me and my wife adjusted well too just took everything as it comes , less time alone obviously but I don’t think it effected our marriage a whole lot but a new shared responsibility lol
It changes more than you can imagine, and it’s unpredictable. My wife (of 12 years now) and I finally started couples counseling and I wish I’d id r it sooner. We weren’t communicating on the same page but now we’re as solid as ever. She had pretty severe post partum depression with no history of depression before pregnancy. That took a lot out of us both, but we figured it out and she’s in an awesome spot now (running her own company). We had a care free city life before kids, and now we’re pimping the suburban life with golf carts at school pick up. It’s a wild ride that I would t change.
yes.
less sleep, more laundry, less “us time,” more teamwork
romance becomes scheduling a nap and tag-teaming a diaper
but when they smile at both of you?
that’s the new definition of “we”
In the best case you’ll still have some worsts. Your life becomes so much more complex and challenging (if you’re trying to be a good father and husband). But it’s also the best.
Patience gets pushed to the limit, and beyond. Ya learn to have a mile long fuse. Your heart grows and your capacity for love goes beyond what you thought possible. You’ll feel helpless, overwhelmed, proud, happy and joyful beyond measure, and everything in between.
Right when you think you got one thing right, the other blows up. When you think you got em all right, it’s magical and brief and you’ll have to work on them all again pretty soon.
Wouldn’t trade it for the world, but it also has me sacrificing so much.
Women change once they have kids. Their instinctual love goes to their children. So men typically feel they have become second priority. That’s why it takes a lot more effort to maintain a healthy relationship after kids.
It changed everything. We love each other even more than ever before ever since. Are we way more stressed now that we have actual human beings that are our responsibility? Yes. But we are better people now.
Expect some squabbles from lack of sleep and standard new parent insecurities. Won’t be an issue for any strong relationship. That’s really the key- if you’re on the same page before kids, you’re likely to be even more on the page afterwards. Kids tend to magnify existing strengths or existing issues.
It definitely changes stuff. You are constantly taking care of kid(s) through different life stages depending on the kid.
You find ways to adapt though and it becomes a new normal…
Feel like we’re closer and everything between us is locked in (in a good way). I feel a different kind of attraction to her now that is very intense need and unlike how it was before
Of course – it’s a pressure cooker for your marriage. Some come out burnt and crap, others come out amazing.
The reality is that you need to up your game on becoming not a couple but a team or unit!
We no longer fight like we did before, as all the little shit don’t matter. We now support each other better and I love her even more for how amazing she is.
It absolutely changes everything. For me it was all good. My wife is an amazing mother. I am in awe of her in that way. Having children made us a much closer couple as well.
There are difficult times. It’s a lot of stress and it’s a huge responsibility. Women will put up with a lot if they love you though.
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Certainly changes things. My daughter is 5 next month and my marriage is as strong as ever at 9 years. I love my kid, I love my wife
Less sex but it still happens.
Having kids changes everything. Less time if you have to look after one or more other humans.
It bonds a family even more i would say. Now if you fight with your wife. You can divorce quite easily. If you have kids you fight for your marriage. If it wasnt for kids i probably be single now. But over the years we got the best relationship ever. We worked through all our differences and fights.
It changes everything between you and the world, including your wife.
Yep, absolutely. You will no longer be the most important person in your wife’s life. And your wife is going to have a lot less time for you. And both of you will be a lot more tired, especially during the toddler era. On the positive, you hopefully will love seeing your wife being a mother to your kid and caring for your little one. As a whole it does make marriage harder for most people though, but (IMHO, for me) nothing beats the rewards of having and raising kids.
It’s an opportunity for you the two of you to connect and grow on a deeper level. It can break or strengthen your marriage. If you’re a good team together, your love & appreciation for one another deepens.
Me and my wife adjusted well too just took everything as it comes , less time alone obviously but I don’t think it effected our marriage a whole lot but a new shared responsibility lol
If you were before, you aren’t living for yourself anymore.
It changes more than you can imagine, and it’s unpredictable. My wife (of 12 years now) and I finally started couples counseling and I wish I’d id r it sooner. We weren’t communicating on the same page but now we’re as solid as ever. She had pretty severe post partum depression with no history of depression before pregnancy. That took a lot out of us both, but we figured it out and she’s in an awesome spot now (running her own company). We had a care free city life before kids, and now we’re pimping the suburban life with golf carts at school pick up. It’s a wild ride that I would t change.
yes.
less sleep, more laundry, less “us time,” more teamwork
romance becomes scheduling a nap and tag-teaming a diaper
but when they smile at both of you?
that’s the new definition of “we”
How could it not?!?
In the best case you’ll still have some worsts. Your life becomes so much more complex and challenging (if you’re trying to be a good father and husband). But it’s also the best.
Patience gets pushed to the limit, and beyond. Ya learn to have a mile long fuse. Your heart grows and your capacity for love goes beyond what you thought possible. You’ll feel helpless, overwhelmed, proud, happy and joyful beyond measure, and everything in between.
Right when you think you got one thing right, the other blows up. When you think you got em all right, it’s magical and brief and you’ll have to work on them all again pretty soon.
Wouldn’t trade it for the world, but it also has me sacrificing so much.
Women change once they have kids. Their instinctual love goes to their children. So men typically feel they have become second priority. That’s why it takes a lot more effort to maintain a healthy relationship after kids.
Most definitely but I like it much more. Nothing is as beautiful as watching your wife interact with your kids.
It only changes things between the two of you if one of you is a bad partner.
Yes.. for better or worse.
It changes everything – forever. All your resources – financial, energy..all of it, are divided more ways.
It’s complicated.
Each kid makes you less important, so that’s something challenging to deal with.
That’s hilarious.
It changed everything. We love each other even more than ever before ever since. Are we way more stressed now that we have actual human beings that are our responsibility? Yes. But we are better people now.
Every single aspect of your life changes… got it?
Expect some squabbles from lack of sleep and standard new parent insecurities. Won’t be an issue for any strong relationship. That’s really the key- if you’re on the same page before kids, you’re likely to be even more on the page afterwards. Kids tend to magnify existing strengths or existing issues.
Makes you a team
It definitely changes stuff. You are constantly taking care of kid(s) through different life stages depending on the kid.
You find ways to adapt though and it becomes a new normal…
Feel like we’re closer and everything between us is locked in (in a good way). I feel a different kind of attraction to her now that is very intense need and unlike how it was before
Of course – it’s a pressure cooker for your marriage. Some come out burnt and crap, others come out amazing.
The reality is that you need to up your game on becoming not a couple but a team or unit!
We no longer fight like we did before, as all the little shit don’t matter. We now support each other better and I love her even more for how amazing she is.
It absolutely changes everything. For me it was all good. My wife is an amazing mother. I am in awe of her in that way. Having children made us a much closer couple as well.
There are difficult times. It’s a lot of stress and it’s a huge responsibility. Women will put up with a lot if they love you though.
Oh absolutely and usually for the worst.
Everything changes. If things aren’t great, it could easily get worse. I couldn’t imagine being closer to my wife before we had kids. I was wrong.