I have been with my husband for almost 19 years now I am 34 and he is almost 38 we have a 8 year old princess and a 7 month old baby girl recently almost a month ago he told me he wants to see other women which competely shattered my heart, especially sense I recently had a baby. A couple of weeks ago we have been very intimate and we both seem to enjoy it a lot. We still live together he comes straight home from work ever day and he says he hasn’t done anything with no one else. but where he works at now he gets a lot of attention from other women that I believe that has made him want to see other people. I want to fight for my marriage and I don’t want to loose him but I don’t want to waste my time
TL;DR, we have always been very in love and loyal to each other this has completely blindsided me
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Potentially but it has to be on him. You shouldn’t beg or plead for someone to love you. Don’t beg him to stay or be faithful. If he has a change of heart he will have to earn his way back into your trust over time and with help (couples therapy).
For now figure out what you need to do to secure yourself in the event of a separation.
Your relationship only has a chance if you both want the same thing. If you want a monogamous relationship with him and he still just wants sex with others, there’s no chance.
You need to figure out what you both want and if it still aligns or not. If not, walk away.