I’m 26m and have an identical twin. Most people are understanding of our bond because of the twin thing, every now and then someone will be like wow you guys are close close. My brother had been dating this girl for a few months and she has acted weird when I’m around which my bro is the one who brought it up and he said it was a red flag but he was giving it time to see if it got better. He thought maybe she was just weirded out to see “two of him”. This was just a casual thing anyway because neither of us really want a serious long term relationship with anyone.
But an incident she referred to as incest yesterday blew our minds lol she came over to our apartment and we were on the couch sharing a joint. She said something to him, he went to exhale but turned to me first and exhaled the smoke into my face and I sucked it up. It’s just something dumb we do sometimes, we joke about not being wasteful. His girlfriend told us we were disgusting and our relationship is “too incesty” for her to feel comfortable around.
I’m confused about why she made such a big deal out of it. Would it be weird to you? For one we’re brothers so nothing we do together feels sexual and two our mouths didn’t even touch?? Like he literally just exhaled smoke in my direction.
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uh…. i mean i wouldn’t call that incest, but i think it’s a little weird. sharing smoke isn’t something i would do with my sibling. i have a sister and we both smoke and i wouldn’t blow smoke into her face for her to suck in because that’s just weird imo. it’s probably a little to similar to a smoke pass which is normally sexual because it initiates kissing as an aspect which is what put her off. just pass the joint…its more simple.
Yeah… that’s a bit different. But twins be doing that kind of thing, so.
Uhhhh yeah it’s a little weird dude. I don’t think you’re trying to bang your brother but I have always seen doing this as a flirty/sexual thing. I do think she’s making it a bigger dealer than it has to be.
I mean a tiny bit weird but it’s not like you guys were making out
Don’t think it’s weird at all. Literally gonna breathe it in anyway in a shared space. If you did a proper blow back with lips then maybe it’s weird, but this is just intentionally inhaling secondhand smoke that you would have likely inhaled anyway. This girl sounds odd to me.
I personally wouldn’t shotgun a joint with a sibling, but I wouldn’t call it incest by any means, especially considering your mouths didn’t even touch. I have seen dudes do this that are friends and never thought anything of it. One blows smoke at the other just clowning, the other sucks it up because why waste it right? No biggy.
Twins are almost always closer than regular siblings anyway, especially when they grow up being treated as one person. I have twin little sisters and the bond is just different. If she can’t handle it, that’s a her problem.
I don’t think it’s weird. I’ve done this with my best friends and twins usually have their quirks so…
I have 3 brothers and great relationships with them I would never do this with them. I doubt you guys have any serious vibes behind the action but that reads as very sexual to me and I’d definitely joke about it at you
No,not ‘incesty’,it creeps me out when people are too close to their families like my ex husband who was 36 and his mum still bathed him(she’s the reason we divorced),or my other ex and his sister who used to pop eachothers back spots(I just thought of monkeys 🤮),perhaps from the angle she was sitting/her state of mind she ‘saw’ you kissing and didn’t notice the smoke?(total guess),also it’s normal,it’s called a blowback and everyone in the 90’s did it
Your relationship with your brother is kind of weird, but fine and not hurting anyone. If this girl doesn’t want to date your brother for this reason it’s up to her – sounds like they’re not a good match.
I don’t think it sounds weird or incesty, but any reason is a fair reason to break up with someone.
I wouldn’t think twice if people did that. I don’t smoke but I don’t see it as a strange thing to do amongst people who are close like twins obviously would be.
Did you forget to say no homo?
If not, alls cool.
I’m not a smoker, so to me that seems gross, but only because smoking is gross to me and that is also like breathing in someone else’s mouth which is also kinda gross to me.
It doesn’t seem incesty at all to me. It just seems like a dumb thing to do, but I’m a guy, I do dumb things with mates too. She’s the one making it weird. If your brother isn’t comfortable being himself around his girl, then yeah, that’s a good enough reason to break up. It’s kinda lame to shame someone into not hanging out with their brother (twin or not) how they want to just because she doesn’t understand your relationship as brothers.
LOL that’s not incest, that’s teen boy idiocy stretching out into the 20s
Not necessarily incest but if added to other behavior that are a bit too close even from siblings, it can seem like a red flag.
Many twins I have met have unhealthily close relationships. Leaving very little place for a partner to be actually a priority long term.
It’s not incest but it’s weird
I don’t think this is weird at all? I’ve seen plenty of people do this at parties or smoke seshes with a group. It’s just a funny thing to do idk why so many people think it’s weird!
I think it’s weird that she was calling it incest, honestly idk if I’d feel comfortable hanging around her if she accused me and my sibling of incest just because we shotgunned a joint. I’d be worried she’s gonna accuse me of trying to fuck my sibling any time I showed them affection after that. Just my opinion!
Weird, but not incest
Extremely weird dude. Crossing multiple lines of societal norms. “Incest” no… “incesty” or even “creepy” very much yes.
Your relationship with your brother is going to prevent you from having a long term partner for sure.
Yeah I’ve only ever done this with girls I’m seeing, like I wouldn’t call it incest but it would definitely draw a sideways look
Not incest but ew
Yikes she crazy and needs to go like last week. Does it sound like incest, absolutely not. Is it a fair reason to break up with her? 1000%
This is exactly what happens when you hotbox In a car or bathroom.
Hotboxing isn’t incest.
It feels gross to do that with a sibling and gross to do that with a homie. If you did it with your girlfriend I would have thought “aww that’s cute”
Its not incest. Its a bit.. close?
I dont think I’d be comfortable doing that with either of my siblings.
Maybe it’s because any time Ive done a blowback there’s been a faint flirty underlay to it? Or some sexual tension. Even with someone I wasn’t dating, there was a bit of a sexy vibe to it.
Im inclined to give twins a bit of a pass on stuff that toes the line, and I think if im being honest, id find that more arousing than disturbing to witness. But im also not going to blame her for being a bit uncomfortable with it.
I guess the question of how appropriate it is, would you and your brother be comfortable with you preforming that same action with his girlfriend?
If the awnser is no, then its too sexy for you and he to be doing too.
I think most comments are saying what I think too, it’s a little odd, not incestuous, but would make me think y’all are a little weird. Weird isn’t bad though. Just quirky really. I’m guessing what is bugging her is that she isn’t OK not being the person closest to her boyfriend. I don’t think there’s really anything wrong with that either, she’s young and young people are more intense about those things in relationships. But she shouldn’t date a twin. And y’all should be mindful of that when picking a partner too. She’s jealous and doesn’t know what to do with those feelings other than place them in a sexual category. Don’t date jealous.
Of all the things my mind ran too shotgunning a joint was not even on the bingo card! She is a weirdo. I don’t think she is mature enough to deal with I’d cut her loose considering he was already on the fence..
Don’t waste it for sure! Shotgunning it is totally the right thing to do! Suggesting something incestuous? Crazy!! Another example of similar thinking is breast-feeding. Women think of breasts as part of their sexual identity, and to imagine anyone other than a partner interacting with them freaks some of them out, so they don’t breast-feed when they have a baby. It’s a shame that people just have to turn something innocent into something repulsive. I guess it’s just how their mind works. I would definitely say she should be given her walking papers.
People always get insecure about their partners deep bonds that existed before them, but this is too much.
No, not incestuous. Shotgunning a joint can be sexy and it can be very straightforward. It all depends, but the way you described it sounded like he just blew the smoke in your face and you inhaled it. Nothing sexy or incestuous about that.
If however your mouths was an inch apart and he was gently blowing that smoke for you to inhale with your nose and lips….. Well then… Yes… We are in foreplay territory.