Dont know what to fo

Dont know what to do

Hey there, been debating posting this for a while, but decided some different perspectives could be useful.

I (21 m) am in a relationship of 2 years now with my girlfriend ( 20f ) and we’re semi living together ( she stays at my place almost 5 to 6 days a week)

We have had intimacy issues since a few months into the relationship, i’ve noticed her sex drive going down. She never really started anything to begin with, except kisses once in a while, she barely gets up for a hug/kiss nowa days when i get home after a 12hr shift. And the most confusing part for me is that when i show less affection because of her lack of affection, im the bad guy that isnt interested in her anymore.

All in all i just feel side lined, or forgotten, or just not interesting enough.

One thing she has been telling me that caused her lack of initation are her past trauma’s of bad behaviour of her past bf this happened 5 years ago.

Now i ofcourse understand her issues and i am willing to work with her on them.
But we havent really got anymore despite having alot of conversations abt it.

Ive suggested that she could find someone to talk to about her trauma, since she didnt do that when that stuff happened to her. But she firmly says no because she doesnt want too, and then she says, ” i will work on it myself”.

I feel a little helpless, because she isnt able to process that trauma alone, at least she maybe could but it will take a long time, and she doesnt want to seek help.

I dont really know what next step is the best for me, for her and our relationship, because the tensions for me a rising slowly, and i feel resentment building up for the lack of trying.

Now i know we are both pretty young and things could change in a couple years, but im not sure i can or even want too wait that long.

Can you give me your thoughts or similar experiences to give me a rough idea what next steps would save me and/ or our relationship ( preferably both ofc 🙂 )

Thanks in advance

Dont know what to do

Hey there, been debating posting this for a while, but decided some different perspectives could be useful.

I **TL;DR; : how can i help my gf Show more affection and start more intimacy?