This Husband Refused to Drive His Pregnant Wife to the Doctor Because He Was “Tired,” and the Fallout is Terrifying

Pregnancy is one of those times in life when the phrase “in sickness and in health” really gets put to the test. It is a time of excitement, sure, but it is also a time of terrifying unknowns, especially when random pains start happening. You would hope that your partner would be your rock during these moments, ready to drop everything to make sure you and the baby are safe. But one husband on Reddit just proved that for him, a nap is more important than his unborn child’s survival, and the internet is absolutely disgusted.

Our narrator is a man who works the night shift. We all know that shift work is brutal and that sleep deprivation is a form of torture. He got home at 10 AM on a Tuesday, ready to hit the pillow. His wife, who is four months pregnant, had a doctor’s appointment scheduled. The original plan was for her mother to drive her, which sounds like a solid arrangement.

But as anyone who has ever relied on other people knows, plans change. The mother flaked at the last minute. The wife turned to her husband, her partner, the father of her child, and told him she needed a ride. And she didn’t just need a ride for a routine checkup. She specifically mentioned she was feeling pain in her lower belly. For a pregnant woman, that is the universal code for “something might be very wrong.”

Instead of chugging a coffee and grabbing the keys, or even calling an Uber, this man decided to stand his ground. He told her no. He told her he was too tired. And then, in a move that is truly baffling, he told her to just “reschedule.” He looked at his wife, who was in pain, and told her to put that pain on hold because he needed some shut-eye.

She tried to argue. She insisted. But he wouldn’t budge. He told her to find her own ride or reschedule. So she did. She rescheduled for two days later. Two days of sitting with abdominal pain while carrying a fetus. Two days of worrying.

When she finally got to the doctor, the news was horrific. The pain required “early intervention.” The doctor told her point-blank that she could have had a miscarriage. The delay caused by her husband’s refusal to help could have cost them their child.

She came home furious, calling him irresponsible and selfish. And she is right. But instead of falling to his knees and thanking whatever deity he believes in that his baby is still alive, the husband got defensive. He is “shocked,” but he is still blaming her. He told her she should have told him “beforehand” that her mom couldn’t come. Sir, she told you as soon as she knew. That is how time works.

Then he dropped the line that seals his fate as the villain of this story. He told her that yes, she is pregnant, but “she isn’t disabled and can use public transportation.” He expected his wife, who was experiencing potential miscarriage symptoms, to navigate the bus system so he wouldn’t have to be inconvenienced.

He is actually asking if he is the ahole. The answer is a resounding yes. Driving while exhausted is dangerous, that is true. But “reschedule” was not the only option. He could have paid for a taxi. He could have called a friend. He could have done literally anything other than tell his suffering wife to figure it out herself. He gambled with his child’s life because he was sleepy, and he is lucky he didn’t lose everything.