Boy oh boy. So glad I found this page. I’ve been with my man for 2 years, we recently got engaged. Yayyyyyyy! Right? Well… lol.
From day one I could feel that my future MIL and I just do not gel. We both have strong personalities and she is your typical ‘boy mom’ who doesn’t like the idea of sharing him. And I think that’s fucken creepy and weird. Enter Freud.
On multiple occasions she has stayed at our house (technically MY house, the title is in my name) and gotten extremely, inappropriately drunk and spoken to me like I am a piece of garbage. Last night it got to a whole new level and my angel fiance AND his brother both jumped to my defense, as she doesn’t behave this way to anyone but me. I felt very grateful to have her two sons sticking up for me, but this obviously pissed her off something shocking as she wasn’t expecting it at all. We ended up asking her to leave and I don’t feel comfortable having her in my house any more, especially when she’s drinking.
She is a textbook victim player and will pick and choose parts of these situations where I’ve made maybe one sheepish comment to try and defend myself after a 45 minute drunken onslaught of disrespect and use that to make me the bad guy. She’ll call everyone else in the family to get them on her side.
It’s always over the STUPIDEST shit too – like it’s unfathomable how she goes from 0-100 over nothing. She really needs help with her drinking, so I have told my fiance she isn’t allowed here any more, especially not when drinking, and he completely agreed. So nice to have him on my side.
I grew up with a toxic, abusive, DIAGNOSED narcissistic, alcoholic father and I just don’t want that energy in my life any more. I worked hard to remove him from my life and now I’m stuck with this. I treat this woman’s son and grandson like gods, I am an excellent partner and have always been hospitable to her drunken drama until now. I’ve had enough. Am I overreacting?
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