People post these texting interactions over dating apps where someone says something offensive or makes a cringey joke or just acts like a nicegirl or niceguy. And they all complain about how hard online dating is. I actually think this is a good thing to happen to dating.
When you meet someone in person, they are usually on their best behavior. It’s hard to act like a dick when you’re face to face with someone over dinner. So you have an okay date, go on another date, hang out for a bit, then after all this time spent, they get comfortable and let their true self come out. Then you’ve got to go through the pain of breaking it off with them. Weeks, maybe months wasted. This was how it was before online dating. Now that it’s normal to text each other for a while before meeting, you can often see the person for who they really are before investing the time to meeting them in person. People tend to be more comfortable over text and will reveal their true self more readily. So he said that he thinks all women should stay home and just raise children? Great, don’t need to waste any more time on this guy. She said she only likes guys who make six figures? Great, don’t need to waste any more time on this gal. Saves time, saves heartache, saves investing in someone only to find out later that they’re a douche.
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take your upvote and dont text me
(I prefer in person interactions with genuine people not judgmental aholes or psycho mind game players)
I think dating has been difficult forever. You hear people complain about online dating because that gets engagement. No one really cares that I wouldn’t have met my wife if I didn’t download tinder.
I dig it.. it makes a lot of sense.. you basically know someones goal in the interaction a lot faster than if you met on the streets.. like are you gonna ask for a picture of my butthole or are you gonna take me to applebees and get to know me 😂
Agree. A lot of the horrific messages I see on r/texts from dating apps are really a blessing in disguise. It tells you who to block and efficiently eliminates time wasted on that person.
It’s different as a guy I’m sure, but I actually miss dating specifically for the thrill of not knowing how a first date was going to go. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it’s batshit crazy.
It was never not fun.
I actually find the opposite to be true it’s actually way easier to craft a different vision of yourself even over text to the point where when they meet you they are disappointed.
The vibe you get from people over text is actually different from the one you get when you’re standing in front of them a good amount of the time