I’ve been engaged to my finance for 6 months. A little back story I’ve always been independent and ever since I met my fiance he’s always had less money than I do. I didn’t love him for his money, so I never cared.
I had already purchased my own house, so he moved in with me 6 months ago after we got engaged . He doesn’t make much money, so I try to be helpful since I earn more than he does. Honestly, he doesn’t have any savings, but I’ve been saving money since I was young. So for now until he gets better job I’m taking care of all the bills.
His mom knows he has zero money she complained about before he got together with me. Yet she thinks I’m made of money simply because I own a house which is crazy, because I’m not rich at all and don’t come from a wealthy family I’m just good at saving.
Anyway, my MIL lives in another state, and this was her first visit. She took a video of my house and furniture, saying, “Look at my son’s house and his furniture.” She kept going into my bedroom, talking about how nice her son’s bedroom is. She lay on the couch with her shoes on, saying it’s so nice and that she could relax at her son’s house forever that his home is her home so she often called it her house or her sons house . She made lots of comments about the house, but never included me.
I love my fiance but let’s be real he didn’t spend a penny on this home; it’s my hard earned property. I ignored her remarks, since it was her first time in our city and we were trying to show her around. We ended up at a very large mall, and somehow she wandered into Neiman Marcus. I thought she’d choose something small, but she went into the designer aisle, grabbed a Brunello Cucinelli jacket, and handed it to me to pay for. I was not happy, because it was so expensive. I told myself that, since she lives far away and I won’t see her often, I’d just buy the jacket. She acted as because I’m with her son I have to do whatever she asks. When we got home, she FaceTimed her daughter and said, “Look at what my son bought me.” I wasn’t mentioned at all.
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What did your fiancée say to any of this? He should have shut it down!!
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So, hand your fiancé the receipt for the coat in front of JNMIL and say “since you’re getting all the credit for this, you owe me x amount of money for your mother’s coat. Oh, and I’ll also need a cashier’s check for the entire amount I paid for my home that I graciously let you live in, so your mother is not a filthy liar when she’s on the phone with the her only friend”. And then stare at her.