This is so silly, but I really have no idea what to do.
I (23F) am conventionally attractive and take care of my appearance. I’m also active and have hobbies that I’ve accepted I have fun doing but inevitably end up a little gross… that is, until I met a guy. EVERY TIME I hang out with him we’re doing a different activity where I just end up really gross for whatever which reason. He’s just a friend but I’d still like to look nice because I’m kinda into him.
Here are some examples:
-Climbing: we climb at a gym that gets super hot and within an hour I look like I’ve been doing hot yoga
-Dancing: we’re in a partner dance group together and I just so sweaty because of all the movement in a hot room. It’s a miracle he still wants to dance with me because of how gross I get
-biking: the other day we went on a bike ride together and hung out afterwords. When I got home, I realized my nose was FULL of boogers. I’m mortified
-there’s more, but you get the gist
At this point my predicament is comedic. It’s like the universe is just telling me this is not my guy which is unfortunate. At the end of the day I value his friendship so it’s okay that things stay platonic, I just hate feeling like this. Anyone have any tips on feeling better about myself?
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Just because you’re sweaty does not mean you are ugly. He probably doesn’t think twice about still being friends with you.
People get gross when they do physical things, it’s normal. But there are definitely some things that make me feel either gross or attractive when I’m sweaty. I think the biggest factors in whether I feel “glowing” sweaty or just gross sweaty are: 1. wearing period underwear or a pantiliner so I don’t get a gross, sweaty, swamp-ass feeling 2. applying my antiperspirant at night so it has time to dry down and work more effectively come morning (you can apply it where you normally get boob sweat too if sweaty bras are a problem you deal with) 3. preventing myself from overheating by staying hydrated and wearing breathable clothes (downing electrolyte packets if it’s that bad), because getting overheated just makes me feel gross and overstimulated. As long as you’re hygienic, I doubt you’re actually “gross” when you hang out with him, just a normal person reacting to physical activity. Either way, I hope these tips help and your guys’ relationship ends up wherever makes you both happy.
EDIT: I’ve also heard that if you deal with greasiness and sweatiness all over your face, you can apply translucent powder to the especially oily spots of your face and it’ll help tame the sweatiness. Can’t personally vouch for that, though. Also also, embrace your natural hair texture as much as you can; the summertime sweatiness *will* make your natural hair texture shine through at your hairline, which can look messy.
LMAO … Guys love a girl who’s all sweaty and her nose has boogers … It means you’re real 👍
It’s normal to sweat when doing physical activity. If this put people off from each other you would never see husbands and wives or boyfriends and girlfriends hiking together, biking together or playing frisbee together and yet these are all normal sights. You are over thinking this.
honestly this is so real, but i don’t think you need to worry at all. he doesn’t seem to care, he seems to like you for who you are and if that is your boogers or that you sweat while doing physical activites then so be it! i can only see the positive in that 🌷
Maybe the universe is telling you this is your guy. He’s still around and probably thinks you look amazing. You need to change your thinking. You’re active, so keep doing what your doing but think more positively about yourself.