so basically, i been having problems in life with a lot of shit. Grades are really down, shitty relationship and really no social life. like a year ago i thought that i need a gf to cope with shit and it would be nice. a month or two the relationship was good but then she started laying her problems on me and trauma dumping. since then we’ve been having problems and always fighting. also everytime something wasnt goin her way or i did something that she didnt like, she threatened me by leaving me. Its my first relationship and everytime she said that, i just started panicing and did everything for her to not leave me. now that i think about it, i was really stupid cuz i dumped all of my friends and people for her but she still acts shitty with me. everytime when i wanna go out with my friends or play hoops, she says no and starts crying and saying “what am i gonna do then?”. also manipulating me in ways that i couldn’t even imagine a human can do, always making me feel bad for little things that i didnt even do to her. now my grades are bad too and i just dint know anymore. i been thinking about ending the relationship but idk how and i just cant let go, and everytime when it has gotten close to being over, she starts saying some crazy shit and yeah. idk what to do really and im 17 and really dont wanna fuck my future up
Everything is going to shit
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Just to be clear end this relationship, remember you left your friends for her one of the biggest mistake also when ever she threatens you saying she will leave you just fall back biggest mistake one day when she mention to leave just tell her to end it and you also end it it’s better.you are too young focus on your dreams and goals and start building new friends remember your skills and hardwork will never betray you. Also do note your girlfriend how she is treating you right now it feels like she will leave you eventually it’s better you end it asap before you are a total mess. Remember you will get other girls but you only have one life focus on it . Build your dream life girlfriend and relationship and will come eventually.
Just say it to her straight man if she isn’t hesitant to manipulate you then you shouldn’t be hesitant to break up with her. And for grades, study hard man that’s the only option. Also do not regret your decision after you break up no matter what she does later. If you start feeling bad, don’t. Ignore the thoughts. You’re doing what is best for you and her both.
You are NOT responsible for her mental health. You are 17. Let her parents know she needs help and reach out to your friends for support.
Agreed that you need to end it as peacefully as you can. It’s a detriment to the both of you to continue this relationship. Most likely, she’ll continue to use you to feel better, dismissing her own path of healing herself. I stayed in a relationship like this for years and it turned abusive. It doesn’t get better I promise. Focus on yourself.
You should dump her man its the relationship is bad for both of you and you deserve better. You are too young to ruin your life over some girl that manipulates you. Focus on your self