I, met my ex online when I was 22, who was about 4 years older. We met in year 2019/2020 where covid hit and we were practically stuck online. We met via an online game and quickly became online buddies & slowly platonic friendship transited to a romantic one, initiated by 👦🏻.
At the beginning, it was a bed of flowers & roses, we understood one another so well emotionally despite being online friends and spent so much time together virtually as we were in staying in different countries. Fast forward, 3 years passed, his love couldn’t withhold the distance and time and he decided to call it quits. It took me a looong time to get over & pour out all the feelings.
2 years passed after, and he ignited a reconnection by sending a text to me after 2 years of silence. I was taken aback and replied to find out what he wanted. Turns out he texted as he came across something that sparked his memories of us that we shared and we chatted alittle more.
He started to ask about my personal life, how are things with my family, my career, and basically how I’ve been. I replied as how I would with a platonic friend and treated it like a casual catch-up with an old friend, with no lingering feelings. He also expressed that he doesn’t have any flirtation intentions.
We also shared abit about our happenings and he mentioned he lost one of his family members in an unfortunate accident, I then gave some platonic, comforting advise as I would with any friend and he said I did help him soothe abit of his PTSD.
After, he started to ask emotionally stimulating questions about us, if I still remembered key details of him like his birthday, etc etc.
Here’s the 🤔 part: he basically crafted a scenario where by he made a mistake in one of the questions and said he owes me. He then said he got me a gift and it’s on the way. I was shocked and I never expected a rekindled connection, much less any gift. He then said it’s already on the way and paid for, and that it’s not the first time he’s gifting me anything.
The ☕️ is, he ghosted me days after and after what seems like a reconciled contact, even on platonic terms. He didn’t update if the gift was arriving, or it’s just an emotional gimmick he played on me. Rven if he don’t intend to keep this, he should be accountable for his words and not make empty promises saying he got a gift and then completely ghosting the person who provided him emotional comfort during the most emotionally exhausting part of his life. (P.S. he never made empty promises in the past)
It feels odd for someone who initiated to break off the relationship, suddenly returning after a silence, trying to reignite an emotionally stimulating conversation and then ghosting on his own terms.
TLDR: Ex came back after 2 years, reignited an emotional connection, crafted a scenario so he could send me a gift without it having any romantic intentions, but nothing arrived, and no update from him too.
What do you think?