Location: Indiana
A couple of years ago, my then abusive husband abandoned me in the middle of the night. He took a dog, cat, and two turtles with him. He cleaned out all of my bank accounts including the account for my non profit and he took one of the cars that belonged to the non profit.
He didn’t have a real job that paid well. He would sometimes cook for people privately. But he didn’t make any money that way.
A few days after he ran off, I was served with papers from the court. I thought they were divorce papers. But it was foreclosure documents on my house. He was in control of all of the finances. That was when I found out that he hadn’t paid a single bill from February to August of that year. He was stealing my VA Disability and SSDI checks in order to run away with his green tea b!tch! I had to scramble to find a place that would help me with the house and I found someone to give me a 5 year forgivable loan.
I’ve owned the house we lived in since before our marriage. He had nothing when he married me. We didn’t have any furniture in the home. Just my bedroom set, my computer, my Xbox. He stole a TV and more when he left like a thief in the night.
The judge ruled in my favor a little bit the ruling was to pay off all of the debt we accrued together including the mortgage on the house. Then split the remaining balance 60/40 and I keep the escrow. But I’m solely responsible for paying the bills at the other house until it’s sold. But the surprising thing was the ruling to pay my ex husband nearly $9k (half of the estimated value of all furniture, tech, tools, etc) for all of the “assets” in the home. We didn’t have that much money (nearly $18k) in assets! Even with depreciation values our assets probably didn’t even touch 9k combined!
I bought another house in another town and changed my entire name legally since he doxxed my address online and people were harassing me to the point that I couldn’t even go outside. I have a protective order against him. Since he would drag me out of bed in my sleep and beat me then claim he didn’t remember doing it. Ridiculous. I’ve known him for 20 years and hitting me like that started during Covid.
Him running off made me happy. He was mad that I was happy. So he has been posting all kinds of things slandering me on social media.
There’s a lot that could be said in response to someone else’s drivel, but one needs to realize that it is only the product of a truly mediocre mind, which is ever toying with metaphors and rejoicing in semantic victories. I’ve never once responded to that nonsense.
My question for the legal people here is if I can’t afford to pay my ex the $9k due to the house not selling high enough and the debt being paid off, will I be in trouble? Because I can’t afford that…
I can’t afford to keep paying on the other home while I am trying to renovate my new one. It’s making me struggle a lot more.
Oh, he ran away to Florida to live with his mom after being evicted from two apartments in Indiana. He also abandoned the car he stole and I had to tow it to the dealership and have them fix the damage so I could sell it to them. I ended up having to give it to the dealership for free because the damage he did to the car was so bad that when they fixed it they barely broke even on repair costs vs value of the car. 😑