Yesterday was my former wedding anniversary. It would’ve been 20 years married. We divorced five years ago. My ex took his girlfriend, our kids and his mother on vacation to Alaska. He proposed to his girlfriend yesterday on top of a glacier in front of them. They all know it was our wedding anniversary. In fact, everyone in his family would know this. I don’t believe that she knows. From what I understand it was awkward and the kids are torn about what it means that he did that. What would you think if you found out your fiancé did that?
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TL;DR; Ex proposed to his girlfriend on our wedding anniversary.
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It’s not your anniversary anymore, let it go
It really could have just been a coincidence.
I’d be pissed, there are 364 other days you could have chosen but you chose THIS one day
Don’t lose sleep over it. Study your life
Whatever it is, it’s not your circus anymore and I’m sure you’re pleased with that
Keep it moving. It has been five years since the divorce. This date has no more meaning for you.
How old are the kids.
Your ex isn’t over you and this is a huge red flag. If the symbol of your love is a f you to your ex – their relationship is pretty shallow
When she eventually finds out, I’m pretty sure she’ll be disgusted. Clearly the kids were. So it’ll come out eventually. Apparently you still live rent free in his head.
Honestly, he might have forgotten. I’m happily married and still mix up exactly what day my husband and I got married on. I have to look at this photo we have hanging up from our wedding day to remember the exact date. If we had been divorced for 5 years, I doubt I’d even bother to remember anymore.
I would forget it and move on. Seems like misplaced emotion. I imagine it’s difficult to see your ex proposing to someone new, especially in such a grand way with your kids present—are you sure that’s not what’s truly bothering you?
Her problem now. Cheers!
I now celebrate my former anniversary as my own personal Independence Day. Let that shit go … he’s now someone else’s problem!!
I would think he’s a loser for still trying to get under my skin five years later and be glad he’s not my problem anymore.
He selfishly may not want to have to remember more than one anniversary. Fortunately, you are no longer together. She will find out but the fallout is not your concern.
Why are you even giving it thought? He does not matter anymore. He’s playing games don’t play them with him
He was probably thinking about the location they were at, not the day. If he was thinking about the day, it might have been to take it back from a bad memory to a good one. Either way, it is best for you to stop letting him live rent free in your head.
This is 100% shitty behavior for him. But, we can’t control what others do, only our reactions to it. The best thing you can do is try your best to put it out of your mind. Easier said I know, but you must try. Pretend you don’t know. Be as happy in your life as you can be. I can see why he’s your ex.
I’m assuming he wants to rewrite the memory of that day by creating another memory and celebrate that. Some people do this. I don’t agree with this behaviour but anyway
I don’t know that she will even know. Neither my wife and I can tell you what day we got engaged on. Our wedding anniversary is the day we celebrate and care about.
None of this is your problem or concern
Well, that was a shitty thing to do. He did it to make you uncomfortable. Don’t let it.
How long this marriage? And how long his new relationship is?
Seems the past marriage is still on his mind and that’s not a good sign. I really wonder what his fiancé should feel if she find out?
But will it’s not your concern any more.
Once you are divorced it’s just a date. Maybe he engages to start a new chapter and that shows that he’s closing that chapter and starting a new one.
I would think that it’s confirmation he’s an ass and be so glad I don’t have to live with that selfish idiocy anymore.
Lol. He obviously did that intentionally, what a tool.
I wouldn’t worry too much, it’ll blow up on its own, once the fiance finds out. And she will.
I would not give a single shit if my ex did that. He’s her problem now and I’m not wasting any mental or emotional energy on that.
Why do you care in the slightest? It isn’t your life. They’re free to propose to anyone on any day. Nobody cares about a wedding anniversary once that wedding has been turned into a divorce lol
Girl wtf would u care? I wouldn’t think anything of it. I wouldn’t care. The day was special to the two of you but it’s still just a day 🤷🏽♀️.
Yesterday was someone’s death anniversary, or the day a tragedy struck and changed some lives forever. Could have been someone’s divorce date too. If you’re over him( which I would hope you’d be in 5 years) this wouldn’t matter to u.
Not your monkey or your show anymore.
Oh sweetie, I feel this in my bones. My ex actually proposed to his girlfriend on our anniversary too—while we were still technically married. I was devastated. I cried, raged, and yes… I even made a few shady Facebook posts about women who get engaged to married men (not my proudest moment, but hey—we’re human). Then I called my best friends, and they swept me out of the house for some fresh air and a reality check.
I shared my heart with them, every raw piece of it. The confusion, the grief, the deep feeling of worthlessness. I couldn’t wrap my head around how someone I once loved could be so intentionally cruel. To make it worse, I had just given birth to our third baby a few months earlier—a preterm birth brought on by the stress of divorcing while pregnant. It was a time when I should’ve been healing, not being gutted emotionally.
But here’s the wild part: my best friend said, “I bet they won’t even make it to the altar.” And she was right. They fizzled out within a few years. Meanwhile, I met the most unexpected, sweet man in a bar of all places. I was dead set on never getting married again, but here I am—snuggled in bed watching him do that adorable thing he does when he snores and startles himself awake. We’re married now, and we’re thriving. I never saw it coming.
So here’s what I want to tell you: it’s okay to feel all of it. This hurts. It’s a betrayal layered in history and meaning, and you are allowed to mourn that. Don’t bottle it up—talk to a therapist, find a divorce support group (mine was through a church and honestly changed my life), or lean on your safe, non-judgmental people.
Please don’t waste your beautiful energy obsessing over what your ex did or what she “gained.” You cannot control their circus—but you can reclaim your peace. The best revenge isn’t a sharp post or a cold shoulder. It’s healing. It’s glowing. It’s laughing with your kids and slowly building a life that lights you up from the inside.
And don’t beat yourself up for being hurt. Your anniversary was real. Your marriage was real. Your pain is valid. But babe—so is your future. And it’s still yours to shape.
That’s so gross of him. Your poor kids. His poor gf if she doesn’t know too