I’m just curious how many of you have also experienced this? I used to day dream of this moment, but now that it’s happened… after 10 years I honestly just feel sad for him, and pissed off that he made me remember how badly he treated me and all the awful flashbacks with a simple follow request, anyone else? (He was blocked on everything, but searched me up on a new account made after another failed relationship and cancelled wedding)
Why do they do this? I honestly felt more angry at myself that he thinks I think so low of myself that I would allow him back into my life. I let him do it in my teens, my early 20s but there’s no way I’ll allow it in my 30s. Cancelling that follow request was the first time I had some power, and damn it felt good.
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It’s so infuriating when men do this.
I have an ex that I dated for about 8 months, 8 years ago. About once a year he still tries to add me to socials.
I am not sure why they do it. It is weird. I have never done that to an ex.
They are recycling their options, they do the same to all their other exes because they can’t get/do better as they thought so they try to return
The other side of the coin is the delightful knowledge in that they are so curious to try to see how your life has turned and they can’t get in.
I think we all have that one ex who won’t stop doing this stuff. I have one from years ago who either gets a new phone number or makes new social media accounts to try to contact me every six months to a year. We were involved for under three months years ago and I have made it clear to him that he needs to leave me alone but I’m still having to block him on new numbers and accounts 🤦♀️
He’s trying to reel you back in. Blocked!!
My ex, the only one I’m not cool with, followed me on IG and followed my damn boyfriend as if that would make it okay. I just let it happen and didn’t interact with him. Then he sent me some creepy, coded DM that seemed sexual and didn’t make sense. I blocked him and blocked him on my boyfriend’s IG and explained who he was. /shudder
They always come crawling back because in all those years since you dated them, they haven’t grown or matured and think that you haven’t either and that you’re still susceptible to their bullshit.
I had what the kids call a “situationship” with a guy over 15 years ago, and he pops up in my friend requests still from time to time. The last time I messaged him and said “I’m not that naive 23 year old anymore, bud. Stop thinking you still have a shot”.
It’s not uncommon, unfortunately. Before I was married, I said that I was and they left me alone. Instant ex repellent! 😂
Yeah. I don’t really mind after 10years.
I generally cut all contact off after breaking up… but I think any longer than 7yrs is usually enough time to start a platonic friendship.
Though in both my cases, the guys just needed some sort of emotional support/comfort and or “escape” and I happen to be the person they wanted that for. Which I don’t mind personally providing or helping if they didn’t have a GF/wife (cus IMO they were crossing some lines)…
I once just was supposed to meet up with a guy but covid happened, then life happened.
He still watches my stories like five years later.
I think guys form more of an attachment when they don’t have you (anymore).
Passive-aggressively vague post:
“New number. Who dis?”
Maybe he’s sobering up and is looking to make amends ? Not saying it to imply youre required to hear him out or follow him back, just offering a potential explanation.
Yep and it’s going to happen more and more often the older you get. When I still had FB I could always tell when someone I once dated or talked to was going through a divorce or separation. Even the random ones who ghosted will eventually come back if they ever find themselves suddenly single as an adult.
Typical Narc behavior. 😂🤣… the audacityyy Is crazy tho!.. sometimes i wish i had only 1% of their audacity.
When my now husband and I were dating for about two years, an ex girlfriend from 10 years prior reached out to him on Facebook. No contact for 10 years then POOF, here she is.
My husband is a bit naïve, aloof, etc. and when I asked him why he felt she reached out, he shrugged and said “oh she just wanted to know how I was doing…”. I proceeded to tell him that that is not why she reached out after 10 years, that she wanted to dangle something to see if he was still available, and that I have a hard boundary of no contact with ex’s as I feel nothing good ever comes of it (personal preference).
Please just block him. It’s disrespectful and testing the waters, for his own entertainment.
>Why do they do this?
Most likely, his current relationship is going poorly or he just had a breakup. In either case, it is cause his love life is going badly and he is digging into his previous relationships to see who might entertain him again. Many men think this an easy way to get attention or sex, since they believe they can just pick up where they left off. They are so self centered that they don’t realize you have outgrown them.