i’m honestly shaking writing this. a while back when i was dating my ex, i sent him some private photos. they weren’t explicit full nudes but definitely intimate! lingerie, suggestive, very personal. he was always taking artsy photos and i trusted him.
we broke up a few months ago and haven’t spoken at all. i thought it was done. then someone sent me a link to an online gallery from an art show he’s in. my photos are there. edited in black and white, but it’s clearly me. face showing, tattoos visible, my body unmistakable. he didn’t blur anything or crop it.
i never said he could use them like that. he didn’t ask. there’s even an option to buy prints. i had no idea until someone recognized me and told me. i felt sick.
i texted him to take them down and at first he ignored me. when he finally replied he just said he thought it was “art” and didn’t see why i’d be upset. he’s acting like i’m overreacting.
i don’t know what to do. i feel so humiliated knowing strangers can buy my photos without me ever agreeing. i can’t really afford an expensive lawyer right now but i need to do something.
can i force him to take them down everywhere? what about the prints that already sold? is there anything i can do to stop this? i feel so violated and stupid for ever trusting him. any advice would mean a lot.
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You can file a police complaint for cyber crimes depending on where you live and if he’s earned money from this you may be entitled to all or a portion of his earnings. Maintain chat records. Reach out to the art gallery that is facilitating this and let them know that you intended to file a police report and that they should remove him from their program if they do not want to be included in the complaint as well.