Ex wants to quit job to become full time caregiver to our disabled daughter.

Location: Indiana.

Hey gang, I share 50/50 custody with my ex wife on our 16 y.o. son and 10y.o. daughter. Daughter is physically disabled and permanently confined to a wheelchair. Muscular dystrophy is her diagnosis. For context, She requires multiple medical devices that were provided at no cost to my ex wife through Medicaid. At my house we’ve gotten these devices second hand from families who have outgrown them or upgraded but all my daughters needs are met at my house. Some things like our braun ability van was financed. She also receives Medicare checks that I do not get any of even though she is with me 50% of the time. And 420$ a month in child support.

My ex recently asked for “my support” to quit her full time job to become my daughter’s full time care giver. She explained she’d pick her up from school, take her to appts, therapies, and have the ability to take off if she’s sick. Some of these appts fall on my days so the help is welcomed. But for reference she’d handle 3 one hour appts a week and pick her up 2x a week and keep her for 2 hours till I get off work. Accounting for drive time she’d be “working” for approx 10 hours a week and making more than what she makes now as a cosmetologist.

Frankly, her income is none of my business, as long as she has one. But I can’t help but feel slighted a bit as I am just as much a part of her care as her mom is. One close friend put it as “So she’s getting paid to be their mother?” And that just felt like a punch to the gut.

Do I have any options here? Also, I’m very confused with the “needing your support” part. A part of me just feels like I’m about to get asked for more parenting time so that she can meet the hours she needs to get her paycheck. Any advice is appreciated.