24 F 23 M.
Please give me some advice or reassurance because this situation has me so messed up.
My old coworker reached out expressing interest in seeing me and pursuing possibly more. I was interested as well so after weeks of asking me to stay I booked the flight! I arrived Wednesday and had a great time, Thursday his energy was off so I tried to be patient and kind. Friday morning while he was at work I went and made myself busy, I come back and he sits me down and goes “I don’t want a relationship, you’re way too extroverted and i’m an introvert, i’m also too depressed and don’t want to fake my emotions, could you please leave.
I showed up wednesday changed my flight twice for it to be longer (because he asked) Had sex multiple times (he initiated all) easily spent over $800.
I was like “I completely respect the fact your having me sit face to face but you just humiliated and embarrassed me, you used me sexually, and then told me that i’m the fault. I’m also 10 hours away from any person I know, I have no flight or place to stay, i’m scared”
Would anyone else feel absolutely humiliated and embarrassed?
I have never been in a situation that has left me so vulnerable. He was the only person I knew in that state and threw me out of his place. I genuinely feel so manipulated.
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Wow! This is actually crazy. Is there any way you could at least get him to reimburse some of your cost?? I can’t imagine how you are felling right now.
thats scary, but whats even scarier is whatever he did to make all that seem worth it before finding this out. i would suggest cutting all contact and being honest should someone you or he knows ask you why, that could have gotten dangerous fast and it’s a great practice to never just up and leave for a single male in a far away town, nobody knows where exactly you are or how to reach you should your phone be compromised
He sounds like a cunt