i’m f19 and my bf is m20. my boyfriend always says “i would eat you out all day blah blah” and how much he enjoys eating me out but recently he hasn’t done it at all!!
i’m also frustrated because I’ve asked him too mutiple times on my visits. i’ve literally told him like hey can u please give me head at least once while im here? and he’s always like yes of course! and now it’s 3am and im writing this lol so looks like i didn’t get head this time either
it’s honestly a dealbreaker for me because he finishes super fast during sex so the only way i can cum and get pleasure is from oral. he used to do it all the time and now he never does it’s been really sexually frustrating.
we are long distance and i’m usually the one paying and driving to him and he can’t even give me head i always give him oral so i just don’t understand what changed. he does other stuff to me but it’s i never get close.
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Maybe he never liked it and finally come to the point he can’t fake it anymore and do it. Or You stopped cleaning yourself or got an infection and taste/smell bad.
Maybe he likes it spicy.
Who knows.
Maybe he is insecure in his way of doing things.
I mean honestly….
Most guys would be licking yea like no tomorrow to a point yea would say….dude stop.
So ask him what’s up
I’m seeing a pattern of selfishness here. You do the driving to him. He shoots off fast leaving you frustrated. No oral in return for the head you give him. He’s getting it all anyway and it’s not costing him a thing. It might be time to turn off the tap and see what happens.
Just ask him why. Idk why people are scared to discuss these topics w their significant others. Just tell him to be honest about why he obviously doesn’t want to.
My bf won’t unless I’m shaved 🙄
Like finance, men put in effort for things they invest in – women included. When women start giving a man everything freely, I’ve found men stop trying after a short while
Did you ask him?
What did refuse to answer?
He knows you have cheated and doesn’t want to taste another dude. Guys who like to give just don’t stop.
Never trust who someone is at the beginning of the relationship. Unfortunately, a lot of people lie.
Who you have now is who he is. Someone who isn’t willing to put in the effort to see you or to please you.
It’s difficult because you want to believe he’s not this person, but he is.
Have him give the head first before fucking , guys just cum quicker before women especially if the sex is without protection/ condom, try to tell him to please be more into foreplay and that you aren’t really getting to nut like how he is
Sounds like he doesnt want to / doesnt like giving head. If thats a dealbreaker for you break up with him.
Is he depressed? My bf loves doing it he just forgets in the moment but always gets down to business if I ask during intimacy. It’s kind of annoying to have to ask but if that’s his only problem idk I can put up with it lol