F20 and M23 culture conflicts

my boyfriend 23M who is indian, and i 20F who is white have been together for almost a year, we are partially long distance since he lives across the country but lives in my state for most of the year during school. i have never met anyone in his family, and his parents partially know that i exist but he stays very secretive about me with anyone related to him, with the exception of a few cousins close to his age. he’s told me that many people in his family have had long term secret relationships. he has said that if he tells relatives about me they will try to force him to break up with me and get married to someone they find him, so he says that he has to just avoid the subject of relationships in general. his parents don’t seem too bad, but his mom might suggest that he dates an indian girl instead, which i can see being uncomfortable.

he told one cousin about me, and showed her pictures, and she said “why don’t you find a pretty smart indian girl?” and he mentioned while in india that she would find girls and repeatedly say “look aren’t those girls pretty?” until he would say “sure” to get her to stop, and then she would try to force him to talk to them. he told her to stop, but it still bothers me a bit that his family pesters him to cheat on me simply because they want him to date his own race, and i think it’s discouraged him even more to tell his family about me. he told another family friend (who is also indian) about me, she kept hitting on him and trying to touch him, which he also said he told her to stop.

i love my boyfriend a lot, but it’s hard having to explain that i am a secret without it sounding bad. i am planning on flying to his state to drive across the country with him, but i am not meeting his parents. my mom doesn’t like him for personal reasons (unrelated), but she freaked out when she asked me if i’m meeting his parents and i dodged the question. i know it’s nobody else’s business, but when i’m asked about meeting his family it comes off as a red flag. it doesn’t affect how i feel about him, but it still makes me feel weird or that i won’t be accepted by his family if we get married.

TLDR; my boyfriend’s family wants him to marry an indian girl instead of a white girl and has even made attempts to make him cheat on me, so he keeps me a secret from his family so they don’t interfere