Here’s the situation now: there are 8 people going on the 7 days trip. Two of them are couples (so 4 people), then there are two other girls, my girlfriend and another guy. Cabins have two beds each (two single beds pushed together to make a small double, except the one cabin). The couples will each have a cabin, and these two girls know each other already, so they’ll likely share a cabin. That leaves my girlfriend and this single guy sharing a cabin.
When I found out, I honestly flipped out. I told her it bothered me, and her response was that she didn’t even think about it when she planned the trip, that it’s the only option, and that it doesn’t mean anything they’ll “just be sleeping in the cabin.”
I don’t know if I’m overreacting or what, but this feels like a red line I can’t cross. Even though probably nothing will happen, she barely knows this guy like 3 hours total from one group dinner and she has no idea what he’s like with a few drinks or anything else. I just can’t imagine a girl not feeling uneasy about sharing a bed with another guy.
To me, just the act of sleeping in the same bed with another guy, even if nothing happens, is a total lack of respect. She should have planned this ahead of time to make sure it never even came up or, if there was no other way, skipped the trip.
What’s really interesting is that she’s actually mad at me for being “jealous” because I told her this bothers me. Honestly, I think anyone would feel the same. I’d find it weird to sleep in the same bed as a girlfriend of one of my best friends, let alone my girlfriend sleeping with a guy she barely knows.
What do you guys think? When you comment, please say if you’re male or female I’m curious how women view this versus men.
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Bro… she’s 25, you’re 23. You really think she picked a younger guy because she wanted someone “equal”? Hell nah she wanted someone easier to control. And guess what it’s working.
She’s spinning you in circles, and instead of putting your foot down, you’re here asking strangers if it’s normal for your girlfriend to share a bed with another dude on a 7-day trip. (Spoiler: it’s not.)
Right now she’s the one running the show, and you’re just along for the ride. Either grow a backbone or accept that you’re her little project until she gets bored.
And yeah, they’ll claping cheecks whole trip. If they didnt do it already.