Lately, my grandmother has been asking me for money regularly.
It was a time when i would occasially send money to my grandmother and my sis who have 2 kids each for things like birthday / chrismas, but lateley its nieto ” apollarme con 20″ for every little thing and in the beginning i would pay the million dollars fee just to send small amount but bow im starting to feel like its everytime i speak to them its a request for money . Hey we need money because we want to sell stuff for the parade the have there, we need money to buy this, that . I started ignoring the messages am I the only one that deals with this. I live in the Washington DC area and yes I am from Panama 🇵🇦
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I’d tell them to fuck off if I was you.
Familiarity breeds contempt. When people get used to your kindness, they may start taking it for granted or even disrespect you.
To them you live in the USA. So you have to have money. Why aren’t you sharing? You make USD and MUST have money cause otherwise why are you in the USA?
I can only speak for Venezuelans but it’s the same. They believe because you’re outside you must be a millionaire but that’s because they compare what you make with THEIR life.
So for example you make $5000/mo in salary. They see that and they know their rent is $300/mo so $5000 is a lot!! They don’t know your rent is $2000 and if you tell them they’ll tell you “Why don’t you move to a cheaper place? (So you can give us more money)”.
Eventually I stopped sending money. It was never enough they complained if I did and if I didn’t. If you can’t then I recommend you have ONE person that you send “la mesada” to. In my case I told my mom I could only give $500/mo because of my budget and for her to handout to the rest. So when grandma or my brother or whatever came at me for money I would tell them “ask mom. I only give it to her and she decides. Don’t ask me”. Eventually they stopped asking me and started asking her.
Good luck. Es dificil quitarse las sanguijuelas
Diles, “No soy HSBC.” En mi caso, les dijo “No soy Bancomer”.
I’d get random messages on WhatsApp or Messenger asking for money. Of course they got mad, at that point I didn’t care. Hay que ser mansos pero no mensos.
My mom gets asked to send money to family who doesn’t even talk to her. They asked me too. I literally have never met these people, I only send money to one aunt that I talk to and that’s it. She never asks us for anything so I don’t hesitate sending $ here and there especially for birthdays and holidays. Se aprovechan de uno. Creen que se nos hace fácil ganarnos el dinero. Im sure you work your ass off for what you have.
It is sad. Probably you are getting far from their culture and they think you are well off right now. They might mis-concept the fact you aren’t born in their village and require assistance.
If you have, share a bit. If you don’t have; just say so. People understand. They will clue no all Latinos who emigrate has become rich.
Not stingy. People think that just because you work in the states you make more money but they don’t realize you spend more money as well.
I left to the United States alone when I was 17 to escape the unstable family I had and the poverty. I was fed up with it
Until I secured a job a few weeks later after my arrival, there was the talk of sending money back to my family and they kept trying to convince me that I owe it to them to send money back
It was a stupid request because I was barely 17 working legal jobs for my age that didn’t pay much, I needed to look out for myself… and yet I felt guilty if I didn’t send it to my family…
I was stuck sending money every now and then, and it went on like that for a few years scrapping by until I really couldn’t afford it… I told them no… the argument over money happened…. and I just stopped sending it, and they found their next source of money to survive without me
Call me a bad son, but if I hadn’t stopped sending money, I wouldn’t have been able to advance in my current career and finish college, and I would be stuck working minimum wage and missing bills and going hungry myself
Just tell them you lost your job and you’re doing some small jobs that pay too little just to get through. They will stop asking for a few months until you find a better way to tell them that you won’t be maintaining vagos.
Tell the, you for fired and looking for work. Or that you started woe,I g a lower paid job, had to get Roomate’s. Or that you’re going to jail and don’t know what will happen and ghost them.
Les das la mano te agarran el brazo… Stop sending them money.
Yes I have to send money to my 18 year old sister in Los Angeles and she’s always partying and buying designer but since she has straight A’s and graduated early I feel like I owe it to her.
If they didn’t need your money, they wouldn’t ask for it. I went through an issue with finances recently myself with some clients leaving, and even then, I still helped ppl that were in a worse position than me, and it was a couple friends. This is your old abuela who’s on limited income.
I would commit to giving her $100 every month (assuming this doesn’t break the bank for you). And explain that your doing it because you know she can use it. Explain that you can’t really afford to give more but it’s something nice that you can do for now. Explain how it won’t last forever, or maybe it does but just establish a boundary so you don’t have to avoid her phone calls.
Welcome to my least favorite part of having friends in latin america. I’ve spent a lot of time in Colombia and have had many friendships end over them continually asking me for money. One friend, that I really liked, before he even asked I told him that I have a hard time when people treat me like an ATM because I don’t do that to my friends. So when people do it to me, it makes me think the friendship isn’t real. Then, 6 months after that conversation, he asked for money. I told him he had one opportunity to ask for money. If he really needed it, it was his one chance and if he asked me again, I would block him. Four months later…he asked again.
Sort of. My parents and closest relatives never EVER asked me for money, but I did get some more distant relatives that I haven’t seen in more than a decade coming out of the woodwork asking for money when I moved to Europe
Obviously, I said no
bUT YOu eARn iN EuROS!
And I spend in Euros too, dumbasses
Fortunately, they haven’t bothered me again.
I do get wanting to help your family and all that and think that the best option is the one a couple of people suggested: choose one person to send a fixed amount of money to and that’s it. You save on the transfer fees and headache, they still get some help
It’s a canon event bro
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No. Don’t give them any money. Remitence money it’s sign of a weak economy
Depende que tan solidario quieres ser con tu familia y qué tanto tengas para compartir