Is it common for moms (or primary parents) to feel like they can’t rest at home? Or be at ease? Or catch their breath? I’m (34f) doing a trial separation from my wife (30s mtf) and had my first ever two days away from our three year old. So far I’ve noticed I feel more at ease having a quiet space to go home to. I had a chance to explore a hobby I probably would have felt too tired to do if I wasn’t in this temp. separation, I can catch my breath and feel like I am actually decompressing at night etc.
I don’t know if what I’m feeling is the release from a bad relationship, or if it’s just cause having young kids is hard and I’m not used to a space of my own.
Thoughts? Maybe it’s a bit of both? I suppose when I get my turn to have a week with just me and my toddler I’ll know more!
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Honestly, I think it’s a mix of both. Parenthood, esp w/ young kiddos, is tough, man! The constant noise, mess, the 24/7 ‘on-call’ can really drain ya. So some peace n quiet honestly feels like a vacay. 🏖️ But also, if your relationship was heavy, that’s another layer of stress right there. Maybe this separation, even if temp, is letting you breathe. 😌 You’re doing good, tho! Exploring your hobbies n stuff, that’s important self-care right there. Remember, your wellbeing matters too, not just as a parent, but as an individual. 💪 So go forth and enjoy your ‘you’ time! 🤘 Don’t feel guilty bout it. Self-love ain’t selfish, fam. 💯💖