Over the past 2.5 years, I’ve noticed a toxic pattern in my MIL’s behaviour towards me. When she has negative feelings like jealousy (especially of my relationship with my own family which she has openly expressed to my husband) or me not meeting her unrealistic expectations (she wants me to be her BFF but it’s hard to have a good relationship with a narcissist individual), instead of communicating her feelings, she acts petty and passive aggressive towards me. She’ll intentionally make comments to trigger, provoke, and upset me. For example a month before moving into the side suite of her house, she intentionally told me that my dad couldn’t bring my belongings because there’s “no space” for my stuff. Then when I stand up for myself or get upset (crying), she points the finger blames me, and begins acting as though she is the victim and innocent but I’m the abuser. Then for several days she’ll give me the silent treatment as a form of punishment. This cycle has repeated itself many times over the past 2.5 years. Earlier this week I reached my breaking point and stated I would be moving out (my husband also had my back). The details are in my post from earlier this week. The following night she got her best friend to intervene (I set a boundary in a polite manner that I wouldn’t be discussing anything with the friend as it has nothing to do with her). I stood up for myself and openly discussed everything that has bothered me over the past 2.5 years. When I brought up her behaviours, she responded “but I’ve never done that to you” (acting innocent). My husband had my back and told her she’s doing the same mind games that her MIL and husband did to her when she was younger. My husband and I decided we’ll stay living in the side suite of the house however if things don’t change going forward, we will be leaving. We have agreed to put a lock on our side of the house. She stated she won’t come into the side suite at all anymore. I haven’t spoken to her since Tuesday evening when all of this was discussed. I know going no contact is best for my mental wellbeing. My husband still communicates minimally with her (which I’m fine with because it’s his mom at the end of the day). Eventually if her and I do ever speak again, I plan to keep it as minimal as possible. My husband and I have also agreed to buy our own place prior to starting our own family. I don’t hate her but I hate her behaviours towards me. I am proud of myself for standing up and hopefully made her aware that her toxic behaviours have consequences. Deep down I know she won’t change. Apart of me feels guilty for everything that happened and I feel bad for her. A small part of me feels like reaching out to her but I know I’ll just be getting sucked back into the trap. The feeling of guilt has been quite overwhelming but I’m trying to remind myself why this needed to happened. For those of you who have been in this type of situation or know someone who has, do you have any advice? What helped you in this type of situation especially overcoming the feelings of guilt?