I am a 36 year old guy living in Canada. I’m an immigrant and moved here 7 years ago. At the end of 2022, I was introduced to someone who I had a common friend with back in our home country. My wife and I met him and his girlfriend a few times for meals and called them over a couple of times over the next year or so.
Towards the end of 2023 though, we kinda lost touch. I texted him a few times to see if he wanted to meet but he always said he had something else planned so I stopped, assuming he wasn’t interested in meeting any more. Not a big deal, not everything works out.
A month ago, I posted on my local subreddit asking if anyone wanted to hang out because my wife and I want to make friends in the area. I gave away enough details that someone who knows me might be able to identify it was me. I get a text from this guy that night “Hey did you post on Reddit by chance?” I was pretty taken aback because he hadn’t texted me in forever and this was kinda weird to me. I didn’t respond, deleted the post and my account too. Last week he texted me again asking if I wanted to play pickleball. I would like to, but his approach last month still makes me feel weird and I didn’t.
Part of me feels I should just get in touch with him. Not sure if I should ‘confess’ that the post he replied to was indeed me, or lie and say it was not. Am I just overthinking this a lot?
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I am a 36 year old guy living in Canada. I’m an immigrant and moved here 7 years ago. At the end of 2022, I was introduced to someone who I had a common friend with back in our home country. My wife and I met him and his girlfriend a few times for meals and called them over a couple of times over the next year or so.
Towards the end of 2023 though, we kinda lost touch. I texted him a few times to see if he wanted to meet but he always said he had something else planned so I stopped, assuming he wasn’t interested in meeting any more. Not a big deal, not everything works out.
A month ago, I posted on my local subreddit asking if anyone wanted to hang out because my wife and I want to make friends in the area. I gave away enough details that someone who knows me might be able to identify it was me. I get a text from this guy that night “Hey did you post on Reddit by chance?” I was pretty taken aback because he hadn’t texted me in forever and this was kinda weird to me. I didn’t respond, deleted the post and my account too. Last week he texted me again asking if I wanted to play pickleball. I would like to, but his approach last month still makes me feel weird and I didn’t.
Part of me feels I should just get in touch with him. Not sure if I should ‘confess’ that the post he replied to was indeed me, or lie and say it was not. Am I just overthinking this a lot?
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You’re overthinking it. I mean, do you want to hang out with this guy? Who knows what he had going on back then, but if he’s still someone that you’d like to hang out with, then why wouldn’t you? And there’s nothing to confess. You thought he lost interest, was trying to make new friends, and he’s trying to reconnect.
After you’ve met up again, you could ask why it’s been so long. He might have an interesting story to tell you.