My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I love him, he is great, I trust him but to an extent. I have trust issues from a past relationship and have yet to be able to afford therapy for it. I’ve been upfront about it since the beginning of our relationship.
My boyfriend has always been very selective about the females he follows on instagram. He has made that very clear, at the very start of the relationship he unfollowed every female that wasn’t related to him unpromted by me and told me about it. He now only follows females that we are either both friends with, or he’s related to.
Now I have taken a long break from social media these past 2 months, when I decided to check it today I went through my boyfriends follower list. To my surprise, I saw 2 girls that he had met from a new years eve party we had went to together. Now when my boyfriend drinks, he LOVES to talk, and can be quite charming unintentionally. During this party I noticed him and his single friend kept talking to this one girl. I had asked him about it right away and he told me they went to highschool together and that he was being his friends wingman. I overheard him tell her he was dating me so I brushed it off, it wasn’t until the end of the night when she said goodbye to him that I got the feeling she was more interested in my boyfriend than his single friend.
Low and behold a couple months later they are following eachother on instagram, I thought I had told my boyfriend my concerns about this woman but now I’m not so sure I expressed it to him, because why would he be following her if he knew i was uncomfortable with it, especially since hes always been selective aboout who he follows. I also noticed that he’s following another single girl from that party and I just find it odd that I took a break from social media and all of the sudden he’s following two single women, one of which I know was interested in him.
Could he be cheating?
TL;DR Boyfriend started following two single women he met at a party during my social media break. Should I be concerned?
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I feel like it’s a big assumption that following on instagram equals cheating. Do you have any other reason to think this? Because otherwise I’d say it’s just your paranoia.
He fucked her twice already obviously
You’re making some maaaajor leaps here. An Instagram follow does not equal cheating. In fact if he was cheating on you, he probably wouldn’t be following her because he knows you go through his followers. You’ve been together for five years, he’s never done anything for all that time, give him some grace here.
You don’t need therapy in order to work on your jealousy issues. Try a self-help angle. It’s not healthy to constantly check up on him.
I don’t see the point in stalking his entire Instagram followers list. A relationship is based on trust, which you don’t seem to have.
I’d advise you to prioritise your mental wellbeing asap, if you care about a healthy relationship. Jealousy can damage relationships irreparably…