Fiancé (27M) disrespected me (24F) and made our fight about how I don’t do enough

I (24F) have been with my partner (27M) for 2 and a half years. We lived together with roommates then got engaged in November and moved into our own apartment shortly after. Since moving in I have done 90 percent of the house work/ cooking. I do and put away all laundry. Plan, shop for and cook all meals including his lunches for work. I sweep and vacuum all rooms, wash all dishes, do the hemming for his clothes, feed our dogs, upkeep the dogs nail trimmings/showers. I put his clothes out for him, replace the hand towels as needed, remove our hair from the shower drain, charge our ring cameras when needed, clean the sinks, clean the stove, make the bed and wash all bedding. I make sure he is all set, no matter what. A month ago he stopped helping me completely. Now an important note to add is that last year I lost my job. It was too far to commute, I was mistreated by my boss and for the money it just wasn’t worth it. My fiancée acted okay with it. He was paying 700 for our portion of our shared apartment and expressed to me that it was okay and I could take my time finding a new job. He did more chores back then (probably like 25 percent of chores) however now that we are in our own home, he has decided that since I still do not have a job, he no longer feels like he has to do anything.

I just want to clarify that I don’t feel like he has to do much. Just take out the garbage and maybe help me wash a dish or two. I’m not asking for much. These past few months I have been applying for job after job, I went to a few interviews, I applied for government assistance and I have been going to food banks every week to help get things instead of him having to spend money on food/ necessities. He has not had to pay for pads, tampons, shampoo, face wash, moisturizer or body wash for me for the past 5 months because of this. I’m trying my best while dealing with BED, chronic fatigue, depression and anxiety. Yesterday he picked a fight over something random and said a lot of random hurtful things and I left to a friends house. I told him I needed space. While I packed some clothes, he taunted me in a sarcastic voice asking who was paying for my uber, if I was going to “blanks” house, telling me not to forget my snack that he’d paid for and so on. It was not until I walked to the front door that he actually got upset or acted affected that I was leaving. He said for me to stay and sit down with him and talk but ten minutes earlier when I wanted to talk he just ignored me and laughed and treated me like I was overreacting. So I told him I was leaving and I would be back and he said if I left he was taking off his engagement ring and he wouldn’t put it back on. I told him okay and I left. I got back the next day and he said he wanted to talk. He told me that things had to change. He told me that he was being an asshole the night before and he was sorry. Then he began to say that if I didn’t manage to get a job in two months, our home wouldn’t just be ours and he was gonna have to have a roommate. He said im always saying im applying for jobs and im not. He said I don’t try. He said i didn’t clean the house enough and I don’t do enough. He said the sink has been dirty (with his hair, soap, dust) for two weeks and when was the last time I mopped.

He told me that he’s been seeing stains on the kitchen tile and he said I have time because im home all day so why is he always seeing trash under our couch (we eat dinner at our couch) and just listing off all the chores I need to try harder at. He said that depression isn’t a reason to not clean and that he wants me to do more around the house. I was very upset at that point and I asked him if the sink was bothering him so much why didn’t he just give it a quick wipe? He said he works and he isn’t doing any chores and he shouldn’t have to when im home all day doing nothing. It broke me but I told him I would try harder. I told him I would clean more but it just kind of grossed me out. The way he raised his voice at me and demanded that I do something like if I lay at home all day just broke my heart and im not sure what to do. As far as he thinks, everything is okay. But im not okay. I don’t know how much longer I can be with him. He is constantly throwing the fact that he pays for things in my face. Telling me that he doesn’t have to buy me food, or snacks or anything at all. And he does it because he loves me.

TL;DR: Fiancé said he will not help me with any chores because I am unemployed and he shouldn’t have to help. He was already barely helping but him verbalizing that in the way he did, has make me feel disgusted. I just want to be respected. How do I go about addressing how I feel and how do I go about getting over what he said?