Alright so we don’t have the best track record he came down to live with me and help me with our baby when she was maybe 2 months old so I went through the trenches at least that’s what it felt like meanwhile he got to live his best life where he lived. My fiancé has lived here for maybe 2 weeks I have been caring for the baby for almost the whole week while he was working even at night which is reasonable and okay. He has Saturdays and sundays off so I assumed he would at least help me one of those days so I can sleep a night too but it’s 1AM and he asked to go out he didn’t say where I got annoyed because it was obvious she was most likely going to be up soon so I thought he just wanted to leave so he wouldn’t have to do anything he then gave me attitude and asked why I was being moody. I don’t understand maybe I’m overreacting? I recently went on his phone saw he looked up by name this girl he follows on instagram that posts provocative photos in cosplay and he recently looked up his ex girlfriends Facebook
Edit: Thank you to everyone who has commented I have an issue where I constantly make up excuses for people and let myself get ran over I usually don’t know unless I ask my therapist their opinion
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Of course you’re not overreacting. He came to ‘help’ with the baby at two months old? And thinks you’re moody because you weren’t happy he was ditching you and your child to go to some unknown place in the middle of the night?
This man doesn’t want to be a parent of a partner. The question is what are you going to do about it?
You’re not overreacting. He’s a bad partner and father.
Is he at least helping you financially?
You are NOT overreacting in the slightest. HIS baby is not something to sporadically come to ‘help out with’. She is both of yours, and he has an obligation to fulfill his role.
If he doesn’t want to be a part of raising her, he can pay child support. You do not deserve to be going through this alone.
Why did you get pregnant, you people act like everyone is supposed to know how to act. That’s the thing about being a female and getting pregnant, that child is now your responsibility so if he doesn’t want to be around you and the child that’s on you. And why are you complaining to read it because you picked the wrong guy to get knocked up from. So you’re going through the trenches well all of us have had a child have gone through the trenches and some of us were married so it doesn’t really make any sense that you think the guy supposed to be responsible.